The best advice you can give in 2018
“Change your thinking & change your world”
The best advice I’ve ever heard came from my mom when I was only 15 years old. My mom told me that “your brain believes what your mouth tells it to, so make sure you’re kind,” and she would say that “you are not what you eat, you are what you constantly think about.” Fast forward 11 years later and I can confidently say that I live by that advice.
My co-worker always says “change your thinking, and you change your world.” Changing the way you think and changing your perspective has such a substantial impact in creating a life that you want. You have the power to create experiences that are ultimately fulfilling. You can change your own life and make it a bit better it only starts with a thought; the world is indeed yours.
I’ve taken this advice, and I can see the difference that positive thinking has made in my life. My personal goals are limitless because I’ve been telling myself things like “I can” and “I will” and I believe it and I’ve been living accordingly. Pessimism no longer has occupancy within me. Your character and the definition of who you are is up to YOU. Your character is formed by the way you perceive yourself (your thoughts), your life experiences, and the way you’ve applied life’s lessons.
So how can you begin to speak positivity and the things that you want into existence? How is it so simple to switch up your perspective and change your world? Are you really what you always think about and how powerful is your voice and how is your thinking all connected? Can you think yourself into a bad day or the best day of your life?
If you still have a ton of questions try this icebreaker. Repeat the phrase “It’s so funny ha ha ha” ten times, and I can almost guarantee by the sixth time you’ll at least catch yourself smiling. From this short exercise, you can see how quickly persuasive you are without trying too hard. Take this example and now apply it to your life. If you start a daily routine of repeating positive mantras, you will see how you have the ability to create a positive way of thinking, and it is incredibly healthy.
On the other hand, if you’re the type of person to wake up on a rainy day and you say “oh no it’s raining I hate the rain” or “when is it going to be Friday” or “I hate this job. Why am I here?” you are setting the tone for the rest of your day. The message is sent to your brain verbally, and that sets off a chain reaction of thinking, dwelling, and sometimes even brooding.
If you find yourself being negative more than usual and you don’t know what to do, just change your perspective! Every morning when you wake up say “I’m blessed to live to see another day” say things like “I’m thankful for my job”, and “I may not be where I want to spend the rest of my career, but it’s good until I get my next opportunity.” If you’re feeling moody, trick yourself into a better mood even if you don’t want to, I promise you won’t regret it.
Changing your way of thinking changes your world, and it’s all about perspective. Your voice is something no one will ever be able to take from you, but if it becomes tarnished or not trusted, it can be the hardest thing to get back or repair. This is true when directed toward others but especially for the most important person YOU.
From this, I also learned valuable lessons in self-control, managing relationships and maintaining friendships. I’ve learned that there’s a time to insert my voice and not to due to the power my voice carries. Not every situation deserves attention, emotion, feelings or stress. For example, when a person loses control, it leaves their character and the character of the people around them open to interpretation. “A wise man told me don’t argue with fools. Cause people from a distance can’t tell who is who.” -Jay-Z
After all, whether you realize it or not you are of great importance, you are a human being, and there is no one else on Earth like you. You have to find your purpose in life and avoid distractions. “Each of us, famous or infamous, is a role model for somebody, and if we aren’t, we should behave as though we are — cheerful, kind, loving, courteous. Because you can be sure, someone is watching and taking deliberate and diligent notes.” -Maya Angelou
I believe that there is always someone watching you and how you carry yourself. You don’t want to allow the opportunity for someone to throw you off track. Everyone’s life journey is different, but some of life’s lessons are similar; If you’re in a negative space, you can change it. People are dealing with losses, broken hearts, missed opportunities, jobs that they hate, the list can be endless, but it’s all about perspective. It’s that simple.