Posts from the “Inspiration” Category

“I am a hustler! I am not just surviving I am thriving!” Samina Martin’s journey to self-love #ILIKEME

1. Describe yourself only using three words or expressions.

Beauty, Brains, and Ambition 

2. What do you like most about yourself? What are your best qualities?

I am a hustler! I am not just surviving I am thriving! I love that when I set my mind to something I DO IT! I love that I can be involved in 1,000 different things and I am able to give all of those things my very best. I love that I try to encourage everyone around me to do the same and live their lives FEARLESSLY! 

3. Over the past five years, what is the most important thing you’ve learned about yourself? What happened and what made it a significant moment?

– I’ve learned that I am strong. I’ve learned that dark days don’t last forever. I’ve learned there is so substitute for hard work. I’ve learned that there is no such thing as luck but preparation and opportunity. I’ve learned that I am Brilliant.  I’ve learned that the mind is so powerful and if you’re silly enough to believe you can do anything, Well then honey, YOU CAN DO ANYTHING! I can not just pinpoint one moment that led me to these realizations but instead a whole host of moments. The moment I got into medical school, the moment someone I trusted betrayed me, the moment I passed my board exam, or, the moment I had to leave my parents house and be on my own in a new city. Each of these moments was very significant in making me who I am today. 

4. Are you comfortable with being yourself on a consistent basis or do you possess many faces?

-I believe we all possess many different faces; the work face, the home face and the social face, being the most common ones. I am very comfortable being myself in all setting but based on each situation I am able to adjust.  

5. How would you survive living in a world if every other woman were just like you? What would that world look like? Would you survive in that world?

I believe very strongly in individuality and if I was to live in a world where every other woman was just like me it may be pleasing at the beginning because we will agree on everything but it would later be very boring and frustrating. I don’t think I will be able to survive a world with no individuality. 

6. Rename your favorite song, book, or movie using your name and the thing you like most about yourself.

One of my favorite songs by Natasha Bedingfield “Unwritten”. (I’m) Reaching for something in the distance, So close you (I) can almost taste it, Release (Releasing My) your inhibitions….. This song takes me to a place of total vulnerability. A place where I am cable of living my best life with no inhibitions.  

7. What does love mean to you? Has your definition of love changed over time (from being a young girl to a woman) if so, how?

Love means being understanding, Love means being a vulnerable, love means being there for someone in desperate need of companionship (friendship) even if it’s not convenient for you (putting other feelings before yours), But Love also means saying no and choosing you! Over time by definition of love has not changed it has evolved. It has matured. I am comfortable with loving someone else but I have to be able to choose me because my wellbeing has to be my priority. I’ve learned that it is okay to say no.  

8. Do you know how to love? If yes, HOW do you love and WHO do you love?

 I believe I do know how to love. The question is… Do I know how to love properly? Of course, I love my family and very close friends. I love by showing affection, by being there for the things and moments that are very important, by listening. Many people love by buying things but I think love is felt most by the time we spend and the moments we create. 

9. If I asked the closest person to you if you are capable of loving others what would they say?

HELL YEA! (hahaha)

#ILIKEME

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Just in time for Mother’s Day: “Something I need to say” Red Table Talk Exclusive (Willow Smith )

“Something I need to say”

 

The idea of “Red Table Talk” is so important, especially in a time when we don’t get to see genuine, unscripted, emotion represented (positively) in TV/media by women of color.

I can count on one hand how many shows give us (women of color) a chance to see us (women of color) having mature conversations, or solely dedicated to discussing critical social issues, dealing with emotions/feelings, and finding a solution to help and uplift other women.

People just aren’t empathetic, sympathetic or willing to be vulnerable or show their true colors.

It seems like there’s so much hate in our communities and that is due to many circumstances. I think one is the lack of understanding of who we are and what we can be if we had the love for one another; communicating and taking the time to understand ourselves and love one another.

I look forward to more talks on self-care, love, and life as a journey.
Wheres the love?

Thank you for this show JADA!!

I appreciate that I will be able to see genuine love between women of color, women that look like me.

I always had a good relationship with my mom, but since I lost my grandmother, I always wonder what my life would be if my grandmother still around so this episode touched home for me.

I understand Willow’s emotion in expressing her love and appreciation for her mom.

Mom’s love, support, and overall presence in a girl’s life is so important, and I realize not everyone gets that love from mom…it’s a beautiful thing and something that can be so overwhelming.

With mother’s day around the corner, it got me thinking about mom’s. This show is magic and much needed!

I just love Willow Smith #YoungLoudProud

How to deliver your own baby via #YOUTUBE

Tia Freeman, 22 year old Nashville native, gives an unbelievable account of how she delivered her own baby during her trip to Germany.

Seven weeks ago Tia delivered her healthy baby boy alone in an Istanbul hotel during a layover in Turkey.

Here’s the kicker Tia was alone with only YOUTUBE as a guide. Talk about #blackgirlmagic.

This brave soul climbed into a bath tub, delivered her baby, cut the umbilical cord, and headed to the airport for her flight the next day. She continued on to Germany like it was NOTHING!

Congratulations Tia!

#YOUNGLOUDPROUD

How to begin your journey to self-love as a “black” girl in America #ILIKEME

A campaign for self-love & self-awareness

I realize I’m flawed and still have a lot of “growing up” to do. Yeah, I said it. But why do I find it so easy to list the things I don’t like about myself than the things I really love about myself? I had to think, do I even like myself?

“I need to do better” was an everyday mantra. I would laugh the negative statements off and follow up with a casual “I’m not shit” when I’m talking with my friends or thinking of a risky thought.

Something had to give.

I’m realizing my mind believes what my mouth tells it, so I needed to speak more kindly. The brain is powerful, and I’m learning that the things I say, come to be.

My lack of self awareness & love prompted my current project: #ILIKEME a campaign for self-love & self-awareness.

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The purpose of this project is to document the personal growth of as many people as I can (starting with myself); sparking a conversation around “knowing your worth” while shining a light on how vital self- awareness, and love is.

This project is not an attempt to define a person but to celebrate diversity. People are all different and on different paths to knowing “self.”

The journey to self-love is tough, yet necessary and I’m here not to show people “living their best lives” but to shout out those “learning to love their true selves.”

“I Like Me” learning who you are, how to love yourself so you can too love others (properly). After all, if we don’t know ourselves or love ourselves how we can give love to others?

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Know yourself, know your worth

When people talk about “knowing your worth” what does that really mean and is “knowing” enough? I think I know my worth but to believe it and put it into action is a process. The road the self-love begins with self-awareness but is often blocked by the notion that “knowing your worth” is enough.

I started keeping a journal where I would write something I liked about my self every day. I’m ashamed to say that my book isn’t filled up as it should be. I’m a procrastinator; I even procrastinated hyping myself up.

Maya Angelou most inspires me, and one of my favorite quotes from her is ” Love is many things, it’s varied, one thing it is not and can never be is unsure.”

I put my spin on it: A woman can be many things, we’re varied, one thing we’re not, and can never be, is easily defined.

Who am I?

I was so accepting of the labels I was associated with and in a way accepted it to be true. To many people I might just be a “black” girl, an “African, American” girl, a “crazy” girl a “good girl” but I’m none of that.

I’m just Maya, and I’m a woman who actually likes herself; enough to put who I am into better perspective.

I realized the more I thought I knew about myself and the good qualities I possessed, I realized I didn’t know anything at all.

If you Google search my name you’ll end up thinking I’m an illusion:

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If you like to refer to Urban Dictionary, you’ll believe I’m “one hell of a person”:

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(I actually like this definition, it’s kind of spot on…)

 

“Maya” in three words or less

Although not easy, if I had to describe myself using only a few words or expressions I’d say:

“No”

I built walls up all around to protect myself. I’m no stranger to heartbreak or disappointment; “No” is a popular word among my vocabulary as a result.

I’ve been accused of being selfish and mean because of how harsh I can be because my whole life I’ve been so sweet I could rot your teeth.

Honestly, I’d rather be ‘selfish and mean’ than a doormat. No more negativity. No more accepting the bare minimum. No more lowing standards. No no no. It takes skill to say It and mean it though.

Friend

Once you start to understand what it really means to be a friend to yourself you’ll learn how to be then supportive and love others.

In the past two years, I’ve learned what being a friend really means. I am continuously learning ways to put myself first, and in that, I am my greatest friend.

I recognize that I love hard, without condition, and support the people in my life without any strings attached. I don’t expect anything in return. I can recognize who is deserving and who isn’t. Friendship skills on fleek.

Spiritual

I am a spiritual person made up of hope and greatness. Deep down I have this feeling of greatness and great things to come although I’m not sure exactly what it is.

I’m waking in faith and following my dreams no matter how long it takes. I believe in myself, my hopes and dreams, and I’m passionate about helping others.

My relationship with God was on the rocks but inside of me that I know I haven’t created all of these blessings by myself; it’s a spiritual thing. God shows me favor every day. My spirit is unique; it’s different, and you know that when you meet me and really get to know me.

The children’s book that started it all

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In 1997, I was gifted “I Like Me” a children’s book published by Essence.

As a six-year-old girl, I read this book and saw myself. This is a perfect example of how much representation matters.

All throughout “I Like Me” the main character, “Nia Natasha” displays all of the positive things that make her “Nia Natasha.” She ”likes” herself and along with the encouragement of her family she’s destined to do great things when she grows up.

This was one of my first introductions to self-awareness with lessons on self-love. I received so many books, but this one managed to stay in my possession for almost 20 years.

That six-year-old girl is long gone, but this book is still here.

With all of the changes in my life, getting older and maturing (most importantly) I forgot one of the first lessons I’ve learned but then I found this book again, and it sparked something in me.

Instead of tossing the book away I decided to update it, and I made it better. I took five magazines and clipped them to pieces, vision board style, and made a current “I Like Me” book to reflect Maya instead of Nia.

What I Like Most About Me

I like the way I create.
I made the “I Like Me” book over to express myself. One of my best qualities is my creativity.

I love that I am creative and my ideas come to life through my art, creative writing, and ultimately this blog Young Loud Proud; trying to uplift my people and dismember negative stereotypes.

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I made a vision board; I’m writing a book, I used my vision board as the cover art for my forthcoming book “An Ode to the “Good Girl”:

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Instead of sitting around, I want to do. I like my motivation, and although it seems like its taking forever, I am branding myself and becoming a writer; the genuinely creative person I am.

I like that I’m a dreamer and I always have hope/faith. I like my personality, I’m very kind and smart, but I am not a doormat, I can be “mean” whatever that means.

I like that I can mingle with different crowds but not lose myself in trying to be someone else or trying too hard to fit in.

I like that I am creating my own lane.

(Warning: below is an entire MOOD)

I never settle for social norms “we’ve always done it this way, so this is how it’s going to be” I don’t settle.

I know my worth. I don’t waste my time on people who don’t deserve it (anymore). I see growth and positive progression every year of my life.

I like the relationship I have with my mom, my best friend. I like that I can grasp the concept of love although I haven’t felt it too often.

I like that I believe that “not every man is the same” and I believe in black boy joy and black girl magic. I like the fact that I recognize “we ain’t black tho” and I’m open-minded and open to learning from others.

I like my determination, I am a go-getter, and have always been. I like the mystic nature of myself.

The most important thing I’ve learned about myself

I’m a risk taker.

Five years ago I became an adult (in the eyes of the law). I was able to buy liquor (legally), and if I wanted to, I could’ve applied to adopt a child in the U.K.

2012-2013 was a significant year for me; I turned 21 and acquired a lot of bravery. I took so many risks not knowing how anything would turn out.

Looking back, I’m proud because through those risks I was introduced to my true self.

 

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I was someone who was extremely shy and not too outgoing, but in spite of that, I accepted every challenge that came along with transitioning from a child/teen (dependent) to a responsible young adult (independent).

I’ve been on a roll ever since and instead of being scared of change, I accept it with open arms.

I find comfort in forming new ideas and taking the risks of creating opportunities for myself. I’ve grown to be open-minded, brave, and a young professional.

Like Beyonce said: “I dream it, I work hard, I grind till I own it.”

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I moved out of my momma’s house in Philly and got my very first apartment about 45 mins away in Upper Darby (an unfamiliar place but a closer distance to work). I was alone, and although the feeling wasn’t always good, I learned the importance of solitude.

I started inviting toxic company in my life, and I suffered my first real heartbreak. I thought with a new place by myself I would finally get privacy to be the wild girl I always wanted to be, but that place didn’t make me free as I thought.

I leaped, in faith, and quit my job at UPenn (my very first full-time position) and started a brand new career at CHOP. I even took on a second job working as a sales associate at Express (never working in retail before). Being independent, I had to learn how to manage my money and time properly; I learned lessons in sacrifice.

That’s when I found comfort in writing, considered pursuing journalism, and I began writing poetry. I started brainstorming ideas for writing a book. In my toughest moments, I would grab a pen and paper; I used writing as a crutch, and I am grateful because putting my ideas and feelings down on paper helped me develop a plan. Over the past five years, I’ve identified my passion.

“An Ode to the Good Girl” is in the works.

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My forthcoming book has changed so many times over the past five years and is entirely different from the first draft.

I took a risk in creating Young Loud Proud. I’m passionate about my people and have identified a need for spreading love and positivity in the community.

Social media brainwashing is in full effect. I want in on media and news production; I want to change the narrative. I’ve learned to be the change I want to see. Although I don’t know the direction Young Loud Proud will take me, I’m excited about the future.

I learned that I am my best self when I see others happy and thriving.

I like that I’m a risk taker.

The many faced woman

I’ve been pushing the idea that when you’re just being yourself, and you find a way to be successful and happy without compromising yourself, you’re really winning.

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I live by those words. You can’t go wrong when you’re living in your truth and when you’re honest with yourself (and other people). With that said, I am comfortable being myself (maybe too comfortable).

I think I’m growing a new face tho, one who takes no shit and that will spend time alone before in the company of toxicity.

I think it’s fair to say that a professional face is necessary for work/business, and I have a real chill, pleasant face for every other occasion.

How many times can a person reinvent themselves and stay themselves? I’m in the process of finding that out.

I often wonder what it would be like to leave a mark in this world and not just go viral for a second. I want someone to quote me or refer to me one day because something I said had that much of a positive impact and was so inspirational.

I came across a draft of a blog post I wished I posted (but procrastination won again, unfortunately):

“If you’re into symbolizing than 2018 is a brand new year for you to sort of wipe the slate clean and start over. If you’re an overachiever you may have set a ton of goals or “resolutions” for yourself, me; I want to be happy this year. I want to be successful and continue to be myself.”

I think being yourself is becoming a trend (just look at Cardi B’s successes).

Women all through history from the past to the present have found success in being themselves so I know I can too.

“I want history to remember me… not as the first black woman to have made a bid for the presidency of the United States, but as a black woman who lived in the 20th century and who dared to be herself. I want to be remembered as a catalyst for change in America.” #ShirleyChisholm

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Everything is just…BETTER when you dare to be yourself❣️

A world full of “Maya” (a poem in response to a question “could you live in a world where every woman were just like you and would you survive?”)

(Every Woman, I Am)

If every woman were just like me

They’d be no more talks of birds and bees.

Just full blown honesty

They’ll be cures for disease.

Everyone would be at ease.

Seeing as Maya would come in threes, and fours and fives

Every woman would have my eyes and my thighs.

Every morning would be a surprise.

No one would have to cut ties when they realize; their woman isn’t right for them

Because as soon as they lose one, another Maya would be right around the corner for them

No more “plenty of fish in the sea.”

Nope, just me

A gentle, loving soul, smart as can be

If I ruled the world like Nas thought he’d

I’d definitely survive, well, we’d

If only Maya’s were around to see…

The Maya of Ambition

 

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One of my favorite movies is the “Wizard of Oz” which could easily be renamed “the Maya of Ambition.”

It’ll be about a girl who is trying to find her purpose in the land of Ambition while following a yellow brick road that appears pink through rose-colored glasses.

She’ll come across men without brains, courage, or heart and she’ll take them onto her soul-searching journey for self.

She’ll encounter witches both good and evil, but they’ll be called friends.

The land of Ambition, filled with quests for self-love and awareness.

Toto will be my peace and my conscience, and someone will always try to harm it or steal it away.

There will always be fighting against negative stereotypes, and negative thoughts called munchkins.

I like the Wizard of Oz because every time I watch it, I get something new from it (I can watch it five times in a row and find five things I overlooked or make sense of more).

I like how this movie is, within itself, hyperbolic and metaphoric; it’s also silly and full of singing and songs (just like me).

Understanding Four Letter Words

As a young girl, I thought love was only in fairy tales. I thought about love and would think “when I become a woman, I’ll know more about it” or “when I get married and have kids, that’s when I’ll have love.”

I always thought love came about when you got a significant other or when adults decided it was time. I equated sex, dating, children, marriage, and everything else physical to be love. I was wrong (of course).

God is love.

That’s one thing I was confident in. Love is everything you can’t see but know is there and it’s what keeps you alive. When genuine, you could feel love’s presence, just like the air we breathe you can’t see it but if it wasn’t present you couldn’t survive; that was my definition of love. A key to survival.

I grew up very religious, knowing God loved me, my parents loved me, and that’s it. My perception was that love came naturally from them because it was supposed to.

As I started dating (halfway serious dating (like high school dating)), I mixed lust and love up all the time. I had my teachers tell me “you don’t really love that boy.” They’d say “in a couple of years, you won’t even remember his face,” reminding me “it’s a whole world out there, you’re about to go to college, and you won’t even remember what you’re crying about right.”

They were absolutely right.

Almost ten years later, I’m older than I’ve ever been and I realize (and sort of accepted) the definition of love will be continuously changing for me.

Each year, love means something different.

Now, I feel like I generalize love. I currently am taking everything that makes it special and making it common. I would never tell anyone I love them because it was so sacred now I’m saying those words out my mouth for next to nothing.

It’s nothing for me to say “I love chocolate” or “I love your hair” and “I love that movie” “Oh my God I love Trey Songz.” Honestly, I’ve connected love to materialistic things, and I recognize that’s a problem. I’ve become a reckless lover. It’s nothing for me to hang the phone up with my friends and go “ok bye, love you.” It’s become a common thing, a greeting of sorts.

In the future, I want love to go back to being a sacred feeling, a cherished feeling between lovers and family. I need the close knit-ness of it. Something I don’t have to guess about because when it’s present, I’ll know.

How to love (others)

I know how to love, but properly? I don’t think so.

It’s either too much or not at all; I’m never good swimming in lukewarm water.

I think I’ve spent a long time being confused with what love is, naturally as a young girl; I’ve spent time fantasizing about the “one day” that hasn’t come yet.

I often confuse the two “L” words (Love vs. Lust), and as a result, I’m not sure if I know how to love or love properly.

Depending on who you ask the question “does Maya know how to love?” you may get a variation of answers.

If you ask the closest person to me (my mom) she might say yes, but ask my dad he’ll most likely say hell no.

If you ask my friends, they might say yes, you ask my last boyfriend he might say hell no.

The different views are because of the walls I’ve built over time while trying to protect my heart and also the result of my experiences with men.

I guess I know how to love, but I don’t know how to be in love, you can count me out from being romantic.

The problem with confusing lust and love is the length of the heartbreak. It’s like lust has your world comes crashing down, you’re upset, everything reminds you of that person (now pay attention because this is when it gets better) then you forget.

The idea of the person you created in your head fades away, and you like “oh, well damn.”

I believe when you really LOVE someone you either find a way back to that person or you find a way to remain friends. The whole idea of letting someone go because you love them is bullshit to me.

If you really love someone how can you let them go completely? If they really love you back why not do everything in their power to help make things right??

When a relationship is based on LUST, I think you go through the emotional part, but then it’s like “why the hell was I acting like that” then you realize how much time you spent, wasted instead, on that person.

Then you move on to the next (hopefully not repeating an unhealthy cycle like me, but yeah.)

I love my family; I love my Friends, I love God, I love myself (more and more every day).

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“In a society that benefits from your self-doubt, LIKING yourself is a rebellious act.”

Being “rebellious” is how I learned to love myself as a “Black, African, American, crazy, mean, good” girl in America.

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I’m a rebel with a cause and #ILIKEME

Join me in this campaign!

Email your thoughts/answers: proudloudyoung@gmail.com

How would you survive living in a world if every other person were just like you? #ILIKEME (Question #5)

How would you survive living in a world if every other person were just like you?

(Every Woman, I Am)

If every woman were just like me

They’d be no more talks of birds and bees

Just full blown honesty

They’ll be cures for disease

Everyone would be at ease

Seeing as Maya would come in threes, and fours and fives

Every woman would have my eyes, and my thighs

Every morning would be a surprise

No one would have to cut ties when they realize, their woman isn’t right for them

Because as soon as they lose one, another Maya would be right around the corner for them

No more “plenty of fish in the sea”

Nope, just me

A gentle loving soul, smart as can be

If I ruled the world like Nas thought he’d

I’d definitely survive, well, we’d

If only Maya’s were around to see…

Are you comfortable with being yourself on a consistent basis or do you possess many faces? #ILIKEME (Question #4)

Are you comfortable with being yourself on a consistent basis or do you possess many faces?

I’ve been pushing the idea that when you’re just being yourself, and you find a way to be successful and happy without compromising yourself, you’re really winning.

I live by those words. You can’t go wrong when you’re living in your truth and when you’re honest with yourself (and other people). With that said, I am comfortable being myself (maybe too comfortable).

I think I’m growing a new face tho, one who takes no shit and that will spend time alone before in the company of toxicity.

I think it’s fair to say that a professional face is necessary for work/business, and I have a real chill, pleasant face for every other occasion.

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How many times can a person reinvent themselves and stay themselves? I’m in the process of finding that out.

I often wonder what it would be like to leave a mark in this world and not just go viral for a second. I want someone to quote me or refer to me one day because something I said had that much of a positive impact and was so inspirational.

I came across a draft of a blog post I wished I posted (but procrastination won again, unfortunately):

“If you’re into symbolizing than 2018 is a brand new year for you to sort of wipe the slate clean and start over. If you’re an overachiever you may have set a ton of goals or “resolutions” for yourself, me; I want to be happy this year. I want to be successful and continue to be myself.”

I think being yourself is becoming a trend (just look at Cardi B’s successes).

Women all through history from the past to the present have found success in being themselves so I know I can too.

“I want history to remember me… not as the first black woman to have made a bid for the presidency of the United States, but as a black woman who lived in the 20th century and who dared to be herself. I want to be remembered as a catalyst for change in America.” #ShirleyChisholm

Remember, nothing but good things are underway, despite everything suggesting that it won’t.

Dare to be yourself❣️

Wendy Freeman’s journey to self-love #ILIKEME

1. Describe yourself only using three words or expressions.

Creative, Passionate, and Provider

2. What do you like most about yourself? What are your best qualities?

3. Over the past five years, what is the most important thing you’ve learned about yourself? What happened and what made it a significant moment?

(see video responses below)

4. Are you comfortable with being yourself on a consistent basis or do you possess many faces?
I’m very comfortable with being myself. I’m usually really silly and can laugh all day about any and everything. But of course you may have to change faces in reference to professionalism, but I’m just more reserved in a professional or educational setting.

5. How would you survive living in a world if every other woman were just like you? What would that world look like? Would you survive in that world?

I don’t think I would want to survive in a world if every other woman were just like me. How would I be special? My personality and character is what defines me…that’s what sets me apart. I learn a lot from other women because of their differences, gifts, and temperaments. If most women were JUST like me, that would be a lot of emotions bubbling around the community. LOL! I am very passionate, and I can be too empathetic causing me to take on other people’s problems and worries, which usually leaves me to be anxious or emotionally drained. I’ll be crying one minute, and then turn around and be mad at myself for being too emotional, and then end up laughing at myself. Too many me’s may drive the others crazy. LOL!

6. Rename your favorite song, book, or movie using your name and the thing you like most about yourself.

My favorite song at the moment is Cycles by Jonathan McReynolds…so I would have to add my name to it and rename it using a verse and call it, “Wendy’s not going in Cycles”. Why I can relate to this song is because it talks about overcoming unhealthy cycles. How the devil used my patterns to keep me distracted and in unhealthy situations. But because I switched my focus on God, I begin to overcome bad thinking and refrain from making decisions that would hinder me. I love that I was able to come out of a dark place of depression and feeling bad about myself, to praying and becoming confident in who I am and looking to God to feel the voids that I once desired man to fill.

7. What does love mean to you? Has your definition of love changed over time (from being a young girl to a woman) if so, how?   

Love interview Question

8. Do you know how to love? If yes, HOW do you love and WHO do you love?

I don’t want to say that I don’t know how to love, but I’m learning how to love. Love is bigger than just having strong feelings for someone, there is a genuine care and concern that also focuses on things like patience and perseverance. I love my mother, and I love my children. I know that I would not let harm come to them and that I want the best for them…but I can do a better job at loving them. I can only provide them with the love that I am capable of giving. So I pray that my love increases and my understanding of it increased so that they won’t ever have to question my love for them.

9. If I asked the closest person to you if you are capable of loving others what would they say?

They would say yes. I love hard…and sometimes it’s difficult for me to have a filter on who to love because I’m such a passionate person. I go hard for those I care about. My sister and I joke about being amazon’s because we are so tall…but I do view myself as a warrior. And my friends and family are people that I find myself being protective of. I sometimes find myself in situations going that extra mile for those who wouldn’t do the same for me. And although my feelings may get hurt…I can’t change that about myself…I won’t change that about myself.

That’s what makes me Wendy.

#ILIKEME

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