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Four countries in one week: How I survived my impulsive solo adventure Part. I (“Ghana was a FAIL- why do vaccines and travel visas cost so much?”)

“I’m going to Africa and I ain’t going back and forth with yall!”

My impulsive, solo, trip started with just an idea: Investing in myself will be my top priority and I would kick this idea off my by committing to international travel.

It was my birthday and I wanted to celebrate myself like I never had before so I thought “what better way to celebrate (my 27th trip around the sun) than to plan a trip to Accra, Ghana 🇬🇭

I decided I would travel to West Africa which was a no brainer because I have roots there; my father was born and raised in Ghana and I wanted to explore his old stomping grounds, possibly meet some of my family, and overall get a feel for where I come from.

What would be so terrifying about traveling to Ghana solo?

It is completely beautiful and I don’t care what the narrative may look like through mainstream America’s lenses…

I wanted to find out all about Africa’s beauty for myself (and solo if need be!).

I figured if I waited around for other family/ friends I could possibly lose my nerve…there’s no time like the present…right?

No time to answer that! I just began booking!

SHE did it & so can I!!

While being so inspired by the many female travel bloggers/IG influencers making their mark all over the world (like “@thecatchmeifyoucan”) I convinced myself I could do the same thing.

This is so true HOWEVER, planning, researching, networking, and just being honest with myself would have been key and it took a few mistakes for me to realize this.

I dedicated the past couple of years to facing my fears and accomplishing so much; I was about to cross out another “need to do” up off of my list (or so I thought)…

RESEARCH is key

I began “researching” and I started accumulating some of the “must haves” every solo female traveler should have.

I had gained all of the materials but none of the actual knowledge it would take to carry out a successful trip to Africa.

The materials included (but weren’t limited to): an awesome carry on suitcase (with a built in TSA approved lock, a great sized traveling backpack, rain proof slip on sneaker protectors, Anker power bank, travel adapter, new digital camera and mount, selfie stick, travel SIM cards, and a variety of apps downloaded on my phone to help with everything else (what’s app, hopper, WiFi map, cash app, money exchange, google translate, hotel tonight, etc.).

Before I knew it I was in the hopper app finalizing the flight arrangements because I set set, right?

WRONG!

Yes, I would have the physical things I needed for traveling, but the most important question was “could I actually meet the requirements to enter into the country?”

Caught up in excitement, I was overlooking key elements, like securing my safety all in the name of trying to live my best life.

I didn’t consider all of the vaccines until I contacted Penn’s travel medicine and looked into the type of travel visa I needed.

I told the angel and demon on my shoulders “I’ll be fine” and “I ain’t going back n forth with Y’all” (in my best Lil Duval impression).

Without doing the ACTUAL RESEARCH needed to actually be prepared for Africa I booked an expensive flight…

If you’re catching on to how irresponsible this trip was about to be you’re keeping up.

My biggest mistake was not doing enough research first! If I had, I would’ve realized in addition to paying almost $400 for the flight, I needed a visa to travel to Ghana (~$280), and needed to get pumped full of vaccines (averaging over $300).

At this rate, I needed to spend at least a month out there in Accra & Kumasi (and not just a week of vacation time I saved up.

For someone who was balling on a budget, I sure started off by wasting a TON of money I already didn’t have…and needed to dish out more if I wanted to step foot on the continent.

I was honest with myself and admitted I just couldn’t afford this trip (not at this point in time).

I would’ve spent all of my money just trying to get there and one week wouldn’t be enough time at all to enjoy it all!

I was going to keep this trip a secret but as discouraged as I was becoming I decided to talk to my mom about it.

I was so reluctant about that because I knew she would freak out at the idea of me going anywhere solo let alone the place where she had the worst experience of her life.

My parents honeymooned in Ghana with back in 1990 and my mom was so homesick and out of her element so I just knew she would be totally biased against me going.

Anyway, I decided to share my dilemma with her I started off with “mom, I booked a crazy trip” and smiled reluctantly.

She asked where and when I told her she said she was sad and didn’t want me to go but I already knew that.

She said it’s not like it’s Cali it’s Africa lol okkk I realized that I started explaining the money situation because I value her opinion.

Finally, I decided I wouldn’t go all the way but stop in some places where I didn’t need any vaccines or visas, just my passport which I had and was eager to get it stamped.

GHANA WAS A FAIL (for now…but with better planning I’m definitely taking a crack at it again)!!Hopefully I’ll go when I turn 30!!

We all make mistakes and sometimes they cost us big time. I’m thankful I listened to my gut and my mom (and went back and forth lol) because I could’ve spent all of my money just to get to Africa and I probably would’ve had a terrible time (being short on money which isn’t a good look!).

For more on my impulsive solo adventures, and to see what four countries I actually ended up in after this FAIL, continue on in this series!

Click here to visit Part II of “Four countries in one week: How I survived my impulsive solo adventures”

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Suppressed Deity & Young Loud Proud’s presents: Sick, Lit & LOUD

“We have been on a journey from the age of 7, creating our own stories and characters. Being underrepresented as young girls of color, we began designing our own worlds where we were able to exist freely. Presently, we are still creating platforms for disenfranchised groups, proclaiming self-acceptance. Our most recent project, Sick & Lit, is an empowering series that pokes holes in the stereotypes surrounding race, sexuality, and socioeconomic status. Please join the movement by sharing & following the link in our bio to donate to our cause.” —Suppressed Deity, LLC.

“Suppressed Deity, LLC” is an organization based in Philly that produces media content for entertainment and educational purposes.

SuppressedDeity is looking to fund their first project: “Sick & Lit” a project based on the struggles of Millennials. (please follow this link to help support their project https://www.gofundme.com/sick-and-lit-series

✨✨Check out the trailer and let me know what you think!!!✨✨

Founders, Gabbi (@november_drums) & Mishea (@diva_sass), are special guests on #YoungLoudProud’s #SpeakUpPodcast (Episode 4 titled “Sick, Lit & Loud” with #MayaDanielle @mystik.y) where they’re discussing the series Sick & Lit as well as Race, Hair, Gender, Sexuality SocialMedia, MentalHealth & so much more 🖤✨

・・・THANK YOU for a very exciting collaboration 🙏🏽💕Catch the episodes 1-4 of @YoungLoudProud’s Podcast Speak Up: An Invincible Girl’s Podcast (clickable link in bio) https://anchor.fm/invinciblegirl

Make sure you’re following @suppressed_deity (on Twitter& IG) so you don’t miss any of their upcoming projects! Stay Tuned!

Please email: proudloudyoung@gmail.com for all inquiries.

Give me #BlackExcellence but make it #YLP

I can’t help but to SHOUT OUT the #YLP kings & queens and their incredible stories (below).

There were so many noteworthy #blackexcellence posts being shared all over my social media timelines/dashboards/feeds/etc. this week!!

Thank you all!!!

From the people who post/repost, to the people being shouted out- who are out here putting in the work, paving the way and grinding! You fuel this blog:.

(*for the past 30 years 🤔)

I found all of these to be so inspirational and motivating and at the end of the day that’s why this blog YOUNG LOUD PROUD even exists, so again, thank you all.

If you have a personal story or someone you want to SHOUT OUT for being #YLP don’t be afraid to email me: proudloudyoung@gmail.com

I look forward to hearing from you. 💪🏾❤️🙌🏾💕✨

An Ode to the “Good Girl” a book a poems that defies its title

An Ode to the “Good Girl”: A girl is many things, one thing she is not, and never can be, is easily defined.

“Good girls” have it tough. Not only to live up to society’s high expectations but to carry the weight of being “good.” What is a “good girl” anyway? That label doesn’t allow room to be wrong or selfish, disappointed or unsure, sexual or sexy, mischievous, too loud or too quiet; there’s no fair chance in growing into that woman she needs to be.

Whether she’s referred to as Maya, Mystik, or Cypher, this “good girl” is on her journey to finding self. Looking for the meaning of love and learning not to put the burden of loving her on anyone else. She’s making mistakes and learning from them. She’s been betrayed and has betrayed, love and loss, but instead of dwelling, she’s learning lessons and moving forward.

An Ode to the “Good Girl” is a collection of stories dedicated to all of the risks I’ve ever taken, the second chances I never got, and to all of the things, I thought I couldn’t say out loud. These words are for all of the girls who cry a lot and laugh out loud (especially at the worst time). For the “good girls” & the ones caught up too.

An Ode to the “Good Girls” is now available for pre order (as a Kindle e-book. Expected release 6/1/18), if you purchase the e-book you’ll get a paperback copy for a whopping 99cents. If you’re so eager and can’t wait until June the paper back version is live now for $15. Click these links for either Paperback & Kindle (e-book).

Thanks for your support.

Available in paperback & Kindle (e-book)

Wendy Freeman’s journey to self-love #ILIKEME

1. Describe yourself only using three words or expressions.

Creative, Passionate, and Provider

2. What do you like most about yourself? What are your best qualities?

3. Over the past five years, what is the most important thing you’ve learned about yourself? What happened and what made it a significant moment?

(see video responses below)

4. Are you comfortable with being yourself on a consistent basis or do you possess many faces?
I’m very comfortable with being myself. I’m usually really silly and can laugh all day about any and everything. But of course you may have to change faces in reference to professionalism, but I’m just more reserved in a professional or educational setting.

5. How would you survive living in a world if every other woman were just like you? What would that world look like? Would you survive in that world?

I don’t think I would want to survive in a world if every other woman were just like me. How would I be special? My personality and character is what defines me…that’s what sets me apart. I learn a lot from other women because of their differences, gifts, and temperaments. If most women were JUST like me, that would be a lot of emotions bubbling around the community. LOL! I am very passionate, and I can be too empathetic causing me to take on other people’s problems and worries, which usually leaves me to be anxious or emotionally drained. I’ll be crying one minute, and then turn around and be mad at myself for being too emotional, and then end up laughing at myself. Too many me’s may drive the others crazy. LOL!

6. Rename your favorite song, book, or movie using your name and the thing you like most about yourself.

My favorite song at the moment is Cycles by Jonathan McReynolds…so I would have to add my name to it and rename it using a verse and call it, “Wendy’s not going in Cycles”. Why I can relate to this song is because it talks about overcoming unhealthy cycles. How the devil used my patterns to keep me distracted and in unhealthy situations. But because I switched my focus on God, I begin to overcome bad thinking and refrain from making decisions that would hinder me. I love that I was able to come out of a dark place of depression and feeling bad about myself, to praying and becoming confident in who I am and looking to God to feel the voids that I once desired man to fill.

7. What does love mean to you? Has your definition of love changed over time (from being a young girl to a woman) if so, how?   

Love interview Question

8. Do you know how to love? If yes, HOW do you love and WHO do you love?

I don’t want to say that I don’t know how to love, but I’m learning how to love. Love is bigger than just having strong feelings for someone, there is a genuine care and concern that also focuses on things like patience and perseverance. I love my mother, and I love my children. I know that I would not let harm come to them and that I want the best for them…but I can do a better job at loving them. I can only provide them with the love that I am capable of giving. So I pray that my love increases and my understanding of it increased so that they won’t ever have to question my love for them.

9. If I asked the closest person to you if you are capable of loving others what would they say?

They would say yes. I love hard…and sometimes it’s difficult for me to have a filter on who to love because I’m such a passionate person. I go hard for those I care about. My sister and I joke about being amazon’s because we are so tall…but I do view myself as a warrior. And my friends and family are people that I find myself being protective of. I sometimes find myself in situations going that extra mile for those who wouldn’t do the same for me. And although my feelings may get hurt…I can’t change that about myself…I won’t change that about myself.

That’s what makes me Wendy.

#ILIKEME

#NeverEverEverEverGIVEUP : I’ll Take Trap-spiration for 1017 Alex!

Tired of being let down by [some of] social media’s content? Were you recently exposed to a gruesome murder or a random subway fight on Facebook? Feeling like your President is letting you down? Is that annoying co worker subtweeting you again??

Well, here’s an inspirational boost:  Gucci Mane has been on a motivational kick lately, I don’t know if this is just the promo for his upcoming autobiography, but I’m 100 percent here for the positive vibes he’s been giving all summer ’17.

Here’s some #TRAPspiration for you:

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#BURR

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#WOP

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Everyone can benefit from creating a positive mindset and speaking positivity into existence…

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And he keeps it coming…

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My personal favorite #GUWOP :

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Not that you need another reason to stare at your phone all day, but since you’re going to anyway, it might as well uplift you.

No need to look too hard for inspiration, get your daily dose of trap-spiration here: @gucci1017

Keep an eye out for Gucci Autobiography set to release this upcoming fall:

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Pre-order it here.

AASL & Shea Moisture Presents: Black Empowerment

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The African American Student League & Shea Moisture is teaming up to celebrate black culture, entrepreneurship, and success in an upcoming summit, Black Empowerment.  

A group of local, successful entrepreneurs will unite for a free event to promote black empowerment, inspire future entrepreneurs and to help motivate the community.

“‘Join us for an event to empower the essences of Black excellence and entrepreneurship.
Y’all know,, going to the brother man and not the otha man. Join us for food, fun, Shea
Moisture and a enlightening discussion of Black Empowerment, featuring our panel of
local black, and proud entrepreneurs!'”

Location: LaSalle University (Benard Lounge)                                                                        1825 Lindley Avenue, Philadelphia, PA 19141

Date and Time: Tuesday, April 25, 2017                                                                                             8:00 PM – 10:00 PM

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