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#MystikyMaquillage 3/30 “Soiree in the cities girls night out” THANK YOU for an amazing event 💋💄❤️

Check out some highlights from this Girl’s night out Soiree from Saturday 3/30/19(held at 1218 Arch street /Architecture & Design Museum) #Philly

There was so much networking, love & support from Philadelphia!!!

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Four countries in one week: Part. III “I made it out of Paris, France in one piece”

Four countries in one week: How I survived my impulsive solo adventure Part. III:

Despite the Protest, I made it out of Paris, France in one piece!

“Melting Pot”

The world is a huge melting pot.

Merriam Webster defines a melting pot as is “A place where different peoples, styles, theories, etc., are mixed together” and I couldn’t think of a better description to give the United States of America, London, Lisbon, Toronto, and Paris. In the short time that I’ve spent traveling throughout different parts of these countries (10 days total), that’s what I concluded from seeing so many places and so many faces (I did a lot of people watching lol).

I don’t know if it was just my ignorance but I never thought I’d carry on a conversation with an Asian man with a heavy British accent, or witness a young dark-skinned Portuguese girl playing with a white Barbie doll with Purple hair. I met a Filipino woman in a hostel in Portugal who spoke proper English (better than me). I heard so many different languages, beautiful accents from a variety of people that I would have never met if I hadn’t taken a chance and went on this awesome, crazy adventure!

As I said, it is/was just my ignorance of maybe the fact that I’ve been stuck in a small Philadelphia bubble for the past 27 years but I’m so glad that I’m finally got out in the world, way beyond my comfort zone…and now, there’s no stopping me!

There are people on the other side of the world, so many people different from me, but the same, it sounds completely crazy, absolutely mad, “utterly ridiculous” but please try and follow along.

See what I mean (I love rollerblading and I love Mary Jane!)!!!

Paris, France

Out of all of the places I visited PARIS was my favorite! Despite the violence and protests I’ve managed to avoid all of it and I had a great experience!

I took the train all around and it was so simple (compared to Portugal):

Paris❣️❣️❣️ stole my heart what a magical place❣️❣️❣️ It was definitely a great last minute addition to my itinerary & ended up being one of the highlights of my trip. I’m glad I was able to end my tour on a great note lol It didn’t rain at all (haven’t seen a blue sky in 7 whole days), the weather was warm & I finally met up with some family. Traveling solo was fun but it felt good to be around someone familiar.

I ate some tasty crepes at the BEST Creperie:

Saw the inside of an amazing Cathedral:

VISITED THE ICONIC EIFFEL TOWER:

I MEANNNNNNN…..😍 “TOUR EIFFEL”

I took the train and you couldn’t miss the stop…

No fancy descriptions: this was an absolutely beautiful experience (1. To see it light up & 2. to stand under it and get the view while looking up!)

Next favorite:

The Palace of Versailles, King Louis XIV royal residence 😍everything about this palace from its architecture (all that gold OMG) to the gardens was just 😍😍 one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever been…

(The Palace of Versailles was the official royal residence of Louis XIV & the official residence of the court of France! It was abandoned after the death King Louis in 1715..)

So yes, Paris was one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever visited 😍 and I was lucky enough to visit #arcdetriomphe (one of Paris’ most famous monuments built in 1806)! My grandfather was in the same spot taking in all of its glory in the 1950s❣️I thank God I was able to have a wonderful experience and see its beauty, again, all without getting caught up in the protest that began just a day after I got home.

Black Utopia

You’re going to the black utopia? Can I go too?

Where the sky isn’t a typical blue

but a reddish, orangy, golden-sparkly hue.

Everyone there is just like you.

Selfless, patient, loving, intelligent, enlightening too.

Honey pours from the trees and blessings, not death, comes in threes.

You and I are the same, of course, you’d believe,

there aren’t any status symbols symbolizing or separating us because of what we believe.

There’s only one religion and that’s the belief of a longing love.

Everyone would raise their heads and never bow them again to talk to the “one above.”

We’d float down to heaven, then up to our super earth again, and then, wherever our wings would have us travelin…

Maybe we’d stop pass the old mars or visit the first stars and see everything we generalized into being just “space.”

We’ll spin and twirl and twirl and spin, until finally we pick up the pace.

We’d name everything we touch bc it would be ours to do just so, there be enough to go around no need for fighting never anyone going toe to toe.

I heard of this place called the “black uptopia” I heard it’s a place you’ve been to…

I only have one question for you.

If this place the “black utopia” exists, can I go with you?

“Speak Up: An invincible girl’s Podcast”

On 9.30.18 I’m launching “Speak Up: An invincible girl’s Podcast” An extension of my blog site “Young Loud Proud (YLP)” —a resource tool for inspiration & motivation in the hopes of spreading POSITIVITY while dismembering stereotypes. “Speak Up” will be used as an outlet to continue to shine light on #BlackGirlMagic across the globe, a place to discuss social issues, and also solutions/thoughts on how to make a change. Please visit http://www.youngloudproud.com for more information and make sure you’re following YLP’s Instagram @youngloudproud if you would like to contribute feel free to DM me and/or Email: proudloudyoung@gmail.com🖤✨

How NOT to fangirl (when you really want to) Part II. #YLPtalk

Fan·girl: (of a female fan) behaving in an obsessive or overexcited way.

Gather around Young Loud Proud, this is Part II of How NOT to fangirl (when you really want to). #YLPtalk

This past year I’ve been in a few unbelievable situations where I could’ve fangirl-ed the hell out of a couple of my favorite celebrities and could’ve made some memorable events, but I chose to stay quiet and keep to myself with the overall goal of not acting like a complete fan (even though my insides were exploding). It’s a self-control thing, I’ll tell you all about it, here goes nothing!

How to act like you don’t care that: Mary J Blige, Judy Jamison, Lena Waithe, Naomi Campbell, Naturi Naughton, Fantasia, Beverly Johnson, Queen Latifah, Ciara, Janet Jackson & Phylicia Rashad are all sitting within arms reach when all you want to do is run up to them, give out hugs, pull out your camera, and snap selfies:

I attended the filming of the was the Black Girls Rock 2018 awards show and the only question on my mind was: Do I carpe diem or nah?

BET just aired the 2018 awards show “Black Girls Rock” (on 9/9/18) an annual celebration of Black women while recognizing some of the most prominent pioneers in culture.

I had a brief close-up camera appearance so the excitement of seeing myself on TV a few weeks after the filming, basically prompted this “Part II” (of a new ongoing series on Young Loud Proud about keeping your cool and resisting the urge to fangirl celebrities).

A few weeks ago, my best friend sent me a link to attend a taping of this awards show and since I’ve always dreamed of going, this “win a chance to attend” link was right on the money (just not my money—that was a joke). I figured “sure” anything free is for me; it didn’t matter that it was almost 3 hours away in New Jersey.

So I signed right on up and the following week I was sent a surprise text asking me to confirm my attendance to the “2017 Soul Train Awards.” I rolled my eyes so hard at the confirmation, I was already reluctant to travel for this event, and part of me felt like this was the confirmation of some scam, after all, the title, year, and overall details of the show were so off.

Any who, it was all good because once I arrived, I saw a bunch of elegantly dressed people and signs indicating that I was indeed at the right show. It was a huge relief to see event staff eagerly smiling with their “Black Girls Rock event staff” tee shirts on.

So, then I exhaled. I was signed up for the correct show, traveled to the right location, made it on time, I was super cute in my semi-formal outfit, the last thing to ease my mind was the understanding of my role…while I thought I won exclusive seats what I really signed up for was an opportunity to be a seat filler.

For those of you who don’t really know who or what “seat fillers” are for award shows (if you’re reading this puzzled don’t worry I was too) the name is pretty self-explanatory. I was signing up to fill seats as necessary for the duration of the Black Girls Rock ceremony. I was expected to be shifted around, to make room, and fill in seats as necessary for the models, actors, actresses, and VIPs (et al.).

Once I ingested the duties of a seat filler after being prepped by the event staff, my best friend and I was ushered into a waiting area/auditorium where we waited over 2 hours in the hopes of being needed.

In the agreement, it clearly stated that not everyone would be chosen, so I braced myself for rejection. I don’t know why sometimes I count myself out (I need to stop doing that!!! this is a #YLPtalk for another day).

While waiting in an entirely separate and crowded auditorium, away from the actual event, I have to admit; I was anxious, hungry and ready to leave, but, I AM SO GLAD I STAYED!

I was sitting next to some complainers who figured the long wait was because they ran out of room, or they weren’t going to need us, or the “powers that be” didn’t like our outfits but I’m so glad I’ve mastered the art of tuning people out because they were dead wrong.

Not only did we get seated, but the ushers ended up sitting my best friend and I (together) in the second row! Yes, we were up close and personal, just a few feet from the amazing “Black Girls Rock” stage and we didn’t get shuffled or asked to move NOT ONCE!

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(This was the only picture I was brave enough to snap as we were leaving out!)

Overall, this was the best experience ever; I ended up sitting right behind Naturi Naughton (commonly known as “Tasha” from 50 cent’s show “Power”), and while trying not to fangirl, I began to notice more of THE GREATS and it was completely unbelievable.

I saw the likes of Mary J Blige, Lena Waithe, Naomi Campbell, Fantasia, Beverly Johnson & Phylicia Rashad … it was all so inspirational just to be surrounded by them and to feel their positive energy. In the words of Mary J “Black Girls just Rock, we just do…” I felt the magic all through the room.

My opinion: to fangirl at an elegant awards show entirely uncalled for and is probably the quickest way to get removed. One thing I will confess: I did bring a copy of “An Ode to the “Good Girl” and leave it under Judy Jamison’s chair but whether she got it or security removed it is neither here nor there…that was the extent of me fangirl-ing…

I was so honored to be there, and I respected that this was such a sacred space full of #BlackGirlMagic. I didn’t see a bunch of bodyguards everywhere, you know? Everyone was basically enjoying each other in harmony, and I thought to myself “yeah this is exactly where I should be.”

I declared to myself that next year I’d be up on that stage and not just in the audience and you better believe it! It was like the best motivational rally, therapy session, church service, and most amazing free concert I’ve ever been to all wrapped up into one event.

You have to realize people are in celeb’s faces all day snapping photos, asking for selfies, recording, and it’s entirely annoying for them. At least that’s what I think. Although I had already signed an agreement not to take out my cell phone before going inside, I was so tempted! Especially when my favorite auntie Phylicia Rashad came on the stage!

They showed me twice so I’m just being joe 😭😭 like look ma I’m on TV!

Some of my favorite moments:

Mary J Blige’s acceptance speech (click here on this link to see my cameo LOL)
Fantasia’s tribute to Aretha Franklin
H.E.R’s performance
Lena Waithe’s acceptance speech

Honestly I signed up through the link for the “2017 Soul Train Awards” with my best friend, ended up waiting for almost 3 hours, and then come to find out it was only to be a seat filler. I was so disappointed but I’m glad I held on because it turned out to be one of the best experiences ever.

I never expected to be sitting up front at alllllll…

The Black Girls Rock 2018 awards show was epic; I’m so thankful to have been a part of that celebration on our culture. I was moved by Trana Burke’s (the founder of the #MeToo movement) speech. I was so excited to celebrate, alongside so many pioneers in our culture that I truly admire, ones that I grew up (past generational celebrities) with and am growing up with (current generation). I realize the magic that took place is unique and want to acknowledge that it isn’t often that we (black women) are celebrated or glorified in the media.

We have to mostly fight for our kudos and share the weight of having to overcompensate for ourselves sometimes, so let me just say I don’t know of a better example/way to do that than exclaiming “Black Girl, YOU ROCK!”

Thank you BET for displaying positive images of black women, shouting out those that are otherwise dimmed, or volume turned down by the media, thank you for shouting us out!!!

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Don’t let me discourage you Young Loud Proud people, if you fangirl, do it with pride, go hard or not at all…this is only a mere suggestion of how to get re-invited to the events LOL!

I just wanted to share some of my thoughts and experiences with you because you never know sometimes… I’ve been in certain situations with people whom I really admire, and for the sake of not being a complete fool, I suppress the “shock and awe” methodologies I try and live by… but…what do you guys think? Will being bold always work for your benefit? Sometimes you can put yourself out there, not act shy and grab what you want and it totally works but you have to be careful, or you’ll look thirsty.

Have you had a run in with a celeb or hung out with a crush/someone you admire? Do you disagree with this theory? Please let me know!!! Email me! proudloudyoung@gmail.com

If you’re interested in more personal reflections/rants/stories like these check out the book of poems I recently published: “An Ode to the ‘Good Girl’” available in paperback or kindle (e-book)

How NOT to fangirl Trey Songz (when you really want to) #YLPtalk

Fan·girl: (of a female fan) behaving in an obsessive or overexcited way.

Gather around Young Loud Proud kids, this is a rant of a story, explaining the importance of NOT “fangirl-ing” (when you really want to). #YLPtalk

This past year I’ve met some of my favorite people, in the most unbelievable situations, and although I would’ve loved to fangirl the hell out of a couple of those celebrities (which would’ve made some awesome, unforgettable memories) I chose to keep my composure and not act like a complete fan (even though my insides were exploding and begging for the opposite). It’s a self-control thing, I’ll tell you all about it, here goes nothing!

  1. How to act like you really don’t care about Trey Songz when he is standing right next to you:

After the after party its the after-afterparty! I was in ATL last April for the TREMAINE the tour festivities, and I went to (really snuck into) an after-after party with Trey Songz (and Jeezy (for some reason I always forget he was there LOL, but I love him too)) anyway, I was literally clubbing with Trey! I was in a small club, and I was so close to him that I was able to pass him a blunt and have him deny it. I was thinking in my head the whole time “do I act like a fool and get thrown out of here” with follow up thoughts like “should I really take out my cell phone and snap a secret selfie” (although no one else was), and most importantly I considered the consequences of jumping on the man of my dreams like I always fantasized I would.

Do I carpe diem or nah?

One thing you have to realize is that at the end of the day celebrities are people. Not Gods, not bulletproof, yes they are magical (but so are you). Anyway, I came to the conclusion that just wasn’t the time fangirl. I was in a small setting and I chose to just blend in with his close friends/family instead being THAT girl which would’ve been entirely uncalled for. At least that’s what I thought. Celebs are constantly having people snap photos, they’re asked for selfies, recordings, etc and whether they feel obligated to engage or not, I can’t even begin to imagine how annoying it can be at times. Honestly, at 4 am, how many of you really think Tremaine wanted to see another cell phone? (That’s all I was thinking). This man is tired and hungry and the last thing he wants is to see the flash of my camera…

ATL was epic; just an hour before (at the Tremaine the tour show) I witnessed women literally passing out from all of the excitement from the legend that is Trey Songz. Then later that night I weaseled my way into the after AFTER party and maintained my composure and kept my dignity although my Afro almost cost my best friend and I admission. S/O to the guy that was like “we need some more females in this club!” hahahahahahaaaa.. anyway the second moral to this story is that deep down I kinda wish I acted a fool and took that moment to twerk on Trey or something at least but ah FUCK IT how many people can honestly say they saw their celeb crush u close and personal???

I chose to act like I didn’t care and that awarded me another hour in that club, just enough time to meet Mu and make friends with the guy rolling up the blunts. Trey’s little brother Forrest is so freaking cute too!!! Oh, I stayed long enough that my best friend and I missed our flight (totally worth it and I would do it again) and in a rush to the airport, I forgot that I packed a bud in my bag (found that out after I unpacked my clothes after arriving back to Philly).

 2. How to act like you really don’t care that Beyonce’s dancers are hanging out with you, eating Pagano’s cheese steaks, and playing Scattergories (when all you want to do is ask a million questions):

OK so the whole reason for this rant of a story and this incredible flashback from ATL is because last night I got the chance to hang out with this awesome guy I went to high school with. Last night was his last night in town (PHILLY) then back off to Miami. I missed Tindy. He was always a sweet, funny guy. I asked him if he would mind me throwing an impromptu game night in this bando (the uptown bando) to celebrate his last night and he said it was cool (what he didn’t know is that I’m a literal type of girl). When I say some I want to throw a game night; I live up to the true meaning of it.

All I heard was “Maya someone is double parked outside!” Showtime! So, games in tow, I headed toward Tindy’s car with my sack of games. He jumped out of his car and immediately burst my bubble “nobody wants to play all of these games, what are you doing??” I was immediately embarrassed, I felt like the child while carrying Stratego, Monopoly, Othello, Family Feud, Scattergories, Clue FX, Gestures, and one more box I can’t remember at the moment. If you let Tindy tell it, I was Santa Clause (Alexa play 2chainz’s verse on Big Bank). So the nervous sweats came (mind you I already had next to nothing on, and my edges were already halfway (less than halfway) fleeky, so the sweat just made everything WORSE!) So I ran back in the house, leaving my keys in the door all nervous to head off to the bando. I came back out with Scattergories, got in his car, took out my cellphone, and I called my friends to come to meet up with his friends so we can all be friends.

What I didn’t know was how poppin Tindy and his friends really were… one of the guys that danced with Beyonce at Coachella came through the door, and I lost it (inside). I was like oh my God. A talent in my presence yet again and I cant even act the way I want. I had a million questions for this man. Like you worked with Bey? YOU DANCED WITH BEYONCE like what the??? He had the nerve to have on his exclusive Bey fraternity/sorority sweater on too. I would have snagged it if I could’ve (I already tried it with his exclusive Torture lighter/ you know testing the waters, but that didn’t go so well…) he wasn’t too amused but what he doesn’t know is that I was plotting on so much more!

I play too much as you guys can probably guess and when I’m nervous, I sweat a lot. I fangirl so hard inside it seeps though my pores but at the end of the day when you treat people who are associated with fame with respect. I think that if you treat celebrities as you would an ordinary friend, I think they can appreciate it (but damn….sometimes I wonder how things would be if I really lived in the moment embarrassed myself)? What if I twerked on Trey or told Q I wanted to leave and go back to LA with him. Maybe right now I would be off somewhere living my best life!

Sometimes I wish I was THAT girl, but even in a drunken state I still think logically. I have a million different scenarios running through my head at any given time, and I love it.

Don’t let me discourage you Young Loud Proud people I just wanted to share some of my thoughts and experiences with you because you never know sometimes… I’ve been in certain situations with people whom I really admire, and for the sake of not being a complete fool, I suppress the “shock and awe” methodologies I try and live by… What do you guys think? Will being bold always work for your benefit? Sometimes you can put yourself out there, not act shy and grab what you want and it totally works but you have to be careful, or you’ll look thirsty.

Have you had a run in with a celeb or hung out with a crush/someone you admire? Do you disagree with this theory? Please let me know!!! Email me! proudloudyoung@gmail.com

If you’re interested in more personal reflections/rants/stories like these check out the book of poems I recently published: “An Ode to the ‘Good Girl’” available in paperback or kindle (e-book)

“Good Girl” #SpeakUp

(An ode to good girls)

You think you’re a good girl

Good girl, who do you think you are?

You walk around smiling, always happy, you won’t get too far

See this is the “real world” niggas will eat you alive

You can’t stand tall before shrinking down to my size

You think you’re a good girl

Goodie two shoes, kinda girl

Conceited think you’re worth something kinda girl

Who told you to smile, wear your hair all wild?

Who said you could go to church on Sundays to praise your God

Good girl, you think you are

But I know the real you

Sneaky girl, you won’t get far

I know all about girls like you

I’ll play you real close

I’ll tell you I love you while I hate you

I know how to hurt you most

You act like a good girl

Good girl, you think you are

But if it’s up to me, I’ll make sure you’ll never fill the void in your heart

You’ll never learn to love yourself truly

You’ll never see those better days

I’m your negative thoughts, self-doubt, that inner hate.

If you’re not careful, I’ll be here to stay,

always.

An excerpt from “An Ode to the ‘Good Girl’” available in paperback or kindle (e-book)

Unethical Behavior in social media (against minorities) and how it’s really affecting us #YLPtalk

A brief rant on a controversial issue: Unethical Behavior throughout social media against minorities and how it’s really affecting us.

Compared to the past, our society does not have to create our imagery or rely heavily on professionals to deliver information; this has negatively affected trust. We are in a society of go-getters for information.

The use of social media has become very popular as the delivery of information is quick and available through various technological devices.

In turn, the immediate aspect of receiving information has created an impatient society. The live broadcasting of the news, via video, has taken away censorship which has affected human empathy among viewers.

“Most young people are using online technologies as a way to connect with their real-world friends, with a small portion-17% of 12 to 17-year-olds using online social networking to build networks of new friends. (p.17)” Society has advanced in technology since the introduction of the printing press, making digital technology a primary means for communicating especially among youth.

There is a permanent nature that has come with digital technology never seen before. “Once information is online, it is not easy to eradicate it. Even if you eliminate the information from your profile, saved or cache versions may still exist on other computers. (p.39)” Everything that is put onto the internet or in the digital world lasts forever, in some form.

This is a complete distinction between the initial idea of media to the present. Even with the advancements of the telephone to the cell phone. The first invention of the phone did not include storage features. The telephone has advanced into a technological device capable of storage, phone calls, applications, access to the Internet, pictures, video, emails, in some cases word documents. “To remove data from your phone, you need to follow the manufacturer’s instructions and remove your SIM card as well as any inserted memory card in your phone. “(p.43) There is a complete process for removing any information.

The development of digital technology has opened the door and created new job opportunities. In return, many print media companies have seen downfalls in profit. Major corporations have tried to transition and adapted to digital technology. The majority has created platforms, corresponding applications, and secondary sources/outlets for the public. The developments in digital technology increased the engagement in news stories. Often news outlets will provide direct links for live updates via social media.

The Internet is the main source of receiving information, and the capability of accessing explicit content in the news is a new concept which is not easily adaptable to without effects.

How many times can I watch people being shot and killed before entering a state of depression????

Unethical behavior and the unjust treatment of minorities is a controversy continuously in the media. Back in 2016, (right around the time I launched YLP) an African-American woman entered into a Kentucky courtroom after being denied feminine hygiene products and pants for three days. According to the Guardian, it was unclear whether the woman was fully dressed at the time of her arrest or remained in the same condition.

This was one of the first cases I really weighed in on social media and gave my two cents graciously. I remember being so disappointed in the different comments/views relating to this story. Unfortunately, I got into so many arguments with the Internet trolls, but I learned my lesson; I’ll keep my opinions and save my energy for this blog, YLP.

Honestly, I could fill my entire blog with different cases of injustice against people who look just like me (I’ll actually go more in-depth about the most current cases in another post).

Social media has morphed into a medium in which uncensored content is uploaded, exposing the injustices of many people, in this case, a woman of African decent The content that is caught and exposed to the public is a form of propaganda; social media is not a credible news source however, MOST people consume so much of it, making it hard to argue that point.

The use of social media ranges from professional to personal use, and the content is timeless. The use of social media has advanced from popularity to commonality. It has become contact information for personal and business professionals. Even some professional business cards feature Twitter or Instagram usernames and links.

We live in an opinionated generation by far. Sometimes it can be bothersome to see the frustration and the aftermath of so many hurt people in society. With all of the technology, video, audio, and footage there are emotional effects and reactions for some people, and there is still the denial of injustice with people; masking or making excuses for the unethical behavior. Social media is also breeding ground for other attacks such as cyber bullying which has also had a huge impact on young people.

People believe that the issue is with social media itself and some people believe racism and injustice will simply disappear if social media shut down today or tomorrow.

Think I’m lying? Refer to: criminal law in North Carolina banning video recording of law enforcement for more info. This idea caters to the idea that the issue is the content and not the activity, acts of violence, excessive force, discrimination, and flat out racism against minorities.

Media. (2016). In S. Bronner (Ed.), Encyclopedia of American studies. MD: Johns Hopkins University Press. Retrieved from http://search.credoreference.com/content/entry/jhueas/media/0

 

Call for submissions!!! #YoungLoudProud

If you’re feeling Young Loud Proud please let me know! This call is for any poems, short stories, shout outs, pictures or any other media associated with the following concepts: Everything is Love, “I Like Me” (celebrating self love/ self care), “An Ode to: (insert a label/stereotype you’d like to see broken),” Entrepreneurship: celebrating young bosses, Dads & Daughters, breaking stereotypes surrounding black people, Black Girl magic/ black boy joy.

There’s plenty to choose from let me see how creative you can be!! All submissions will be posted here in Young Loud Proud and also on YLP’s Instagram account.

Email: proudloudyoung@gmail.com

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