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How NOT to fangirl (when you really want to) Part II. #YLPtalk

Fan·girl: (of a female fan) behaving in an obsessive or overexcited way.

Gather around Young Loud Proud, this is Part II of How NOT to fangirl (when you really want to). #YLPtalk

This past year I’ve been in a few unbelievable situations where I could’ve fangirl-ed the hell out of a couple of my favorite celebrities and could’ve made some memorable events, but I chose to stay quiet and keep to myself with the overall goal of not acting like a complete fan (even though my insides were exploding). It’s a self-control thing, I’ll tell you all about it, here goes nothing!

How to act like you don’t care that: Mary J Blige, Judy Jamison, Lena Waithe, Naomi Campbell, Naturi Naughton, Fantasia, Beverly Johnson, Queen Latifah, Ciara, Janet Jackson & Phylicia Rashad are all sitting within arms reach when all you want to do is run up to them, give out hugs, pull out your camera, and snap selfies:

I attended the filming of the was the Black Girls Rock 2018 awards show and the only question on my mind was: Do I carpe diem or nah?

BET just aired the 2018 awards show “Black Girls Rock” (on 9/9/18) an annual celebration of Black women while recognizing some of the most prominent pioneers in culture.

I had a brief close-up camera appearance so the excitement of seeing myself on TV a few weeks after the filming, basically prompted this “Part II” (of a new ongoing series on Young Loud Proud about keeping your cool and resisting the urge to fangirl celebrities).

A few weeks ago, my best friend sent me a link to attend a taping of this awards show and since I’ve always dreamed of going, this “win a chance to attend” link was right on the money (just not my money—that was a joke). I figured “sure” anything free is for me; it didn’t matter that it was almost 3 hours away in New Jersey.

So I signed right on up and the following week I was sent a surprise text asking me to confirm my attendance to the “2017 Soul Train Awards.” I rolled my eyes so hard at the confirmation, I was already reluctant to travel for this event, and part of me felt like this was the confirmation of some scam, after all, the title, year, and overall details of the show were so off.

Any who, it was all good because once I arrived, I saw a bunch of elegantly dressed people and signs indicating that I was indeed at the right show. It was a huge relief to see event staff eagerly smiling with their “Black Girls Rock event staff” tee shirts on.

So, then I exhaled. I was signed up for the correct show, traveled to the right location, made it on time, I was super cute in my semi-formal outfit, the last thing to ease my mind was the understanding of my role…while I thought I won exclusive seats what I really signed up for was an opportunity to be a seat filler.

For those of you who don’t really know who or what “seat fillers” are for award shows (if you’re reading this puzzled don’t worry I was too) the name is pretty self-explanatory. I was signing up to fill seats as necessary for the duration of the Black Girls Rock ceremony. I was expected to be shifted around, to make room, and fill in seats as necessary for the models, actors, actresses, and VIPs (et al.).

Once I ingested the duties of a seat filler after being prepped by the event staff, my best friend and I was ushered into a waiting area/auditorium where we waited over 2 hours in the hopes of being needed.

In the agreement, it clearly stated that not everyone would be chosen, so I braced myself for rejection. I don’t know why sometimes I count myself out (I need to stop doing that!!! this is a #YLPtalk for another day).

While waiting in an entirely separate and crowded auditorium, away from the actual event, I have to admit; I was anxious, hungry and ready to leave, but, I AM SO GLAD I STAYED!

I was sitting next to some complainers who figured the long wait was because they ran out of room, or they weren’t going to need us, or the “powers that be” didn’t like our outfits but I’m so glad I’ve mastered the art of tuning people out because they were dead wrong.

Not only did we get seated, but the ushers ended up sitting my best friend and I (together) in the second row! Yes, we were up close and personal, just a few feet from the amazing “Black Girls Rock” stage and we didn’t get shuffled or asked to move NOT ONCE!


(This was the only picture I was brave enough to snap as we were leaving out!)

Overall, this was the best experience ever; I ended up sitting right behind Naturi Naughton (commonly known as “Tasha” from 50 cent’s show “Power”), and while trying not to fangirl, I began to notice more of THE GREATS and it was completely unbelievable.

I saw the likes of Mary J Blige, Lena Waithe, Naomi Campbell, Fantasia, Beverly Johnson & Phylicia Rashad … it was all so inspirational just to be surrounded by them and to feel their positive energy. In the words of Mary J “Black Girls just Rock, we just do…” I felt the magic all through the room.

My opinion: to fangirl at an elegant awards show entirely uncalled for and is probably the quickest way to get removed. One thing I will confess: I did bring a copy of “An Ode to the “Good Girl” and leave it under Judy Jamison’s chair but whether she got it or security removed it is neither here nor there…that was the extent of me fangirl-ing…

I was so honored to be there, and I respected that this was such a sacred space full of #BlackGirlMagic. I didn’t see a bunch of bodyguards everywhere, you know? Everyone was basically enjoying each other in harmony, and I thought to myself “yeah this is exactly where I should be.”

I declared to myself that next year I’d be up on that stage and not just in the audience and you better believe it! It was like the best motivational rally, therapy session, church service, and most amazing free concert I’ve ever been to all wrapped up into one event.

You have to realize people are in celeb’s faces all day snapping photos, asking for selfies, recording, and it’s entirely annoying for them. At least that’s what I think. Although I had already signed an agreement not to take out my cell phone before going inside, I was so tempted! Especially when my favorite auntie Phylicia Rashad came on the stage!

They showed me twice so I’m just being joe 😭😭 like look ma I’m on TV!

Some of my favorite moments:

Mary J Blige’s acceptance speech (click here on this link to see my cameo LOL)
Fantasia’s tribute to Aretha Franklin
H.E.R’s performance
Lena Waithe’s acceptance speech

Honestly I signed up through the link for the “2017 Soul Train Awards” with my best friend, ended up waiting for almost 3 hours, and then come to find out it was only to be a seat filler. I was so disappointed but I’m glad I held on because it turned out to be one of the best experiences ever.

I never expected to be sitting up front at alllllll…

The Black Girls Rock 2018 awards show was epic; I’m so thankful to have been a part of that celebration on our culture. I was moved by Trana Burke’s (the founder of the #MeToo movement) speech. I was so excited to celebrate, alongside so many pioneers in our culture that I truly admire, ones that I grew up (past generational celebrities) with and am growing up with (current generation). I realize the magic that took place is unique and want to acknowledge that it isn’t often that we (black women) are celebrated or glorified in the media.

We have to mostly fight for our kudos and share the weight of having to overcompensate for ourselves sometimes, so let me just say I don’t know of a better example/way to do that than exclaiming “Black Girl, YOU ROCK!”

Thank you BET for displaying positive images of black women, shouting out those that are otherwise dimmed, or volume turned down by the media, thank you for shouting us out!!!


Don’t let me discourage you Young Loud Proud people, if you fangirl, do it with pride, go hard or not at all…this is only a mere suggestion of how to get re-invited to the events LOL!

I just wanted to share some of my thoughts and experiences with you because you never know sometimes… I’ve been in certain situations with people whom I really admire, and for the sake of not being a complete fool, I suppress the “shock and awe” methodologies I try and live by… but…what do you guys think? Will being bold always work for your benefit? Sometimes you can put yourself out there, not act shy and grab what you want and it totally works but you have to be careful, or you’ll look thirsty.

Have you had a run in with a celeb or hung out with a crush/someone you admire? Do you disagree with this theory? Please let me know!!! Email me!

If you’re interested in more personal reflections/rants/stories like these check out the book of poems I recently published: “An Ode to the ‘Good Girl’” available in paperback or kindle (e-book)


Unethical Behavior in social media (against minorities) and how it’s really affecting us #YLPtalk

A brief rant on a controversial issue: Unethical Behavior throughout social media against minorities and how it’s really affecting us.

Compared to the past, our society does not have to create our imagery or rely heavily on professionals to deliver information; this has negatively affected trust. We are in a society of go-getters for information.

The use of social media has become very popular as the delivery of information is quick and available through various technological devices.

In turn, the immediate aspect of receiving information has created an impatient society. The live broadcasting of the news, via video, has taken away censorship which has affected human empathy among viewers.

“Most young people are using online technologies as a way to connect with their real-world friends, with a small portion-17% of 12 to 17-year-olds using online social networking to build networks of new friends. (p.17)” Society has advanced in technology since the introduction of the printing press, making digital technology a primary means for communicating especially among youth.

There is a permanent nature that has come with digital technology never seen before. “Once information is online, it is not easy to eradicate it. Even if you eliminate the information from your profile, saved or cache versions may still exist on other computers. (p.39)” Everything that is put onto the internet or in the digital world lasts forever, in some form.

This is a complete distinction between the initial idea of media to the present. Even with the advancements of the telephone to the cell phone. The first invention of the phone did not include storage features. The telephone has advanced into a technological device capable of storage, phone calls, applications, access to the Internet, pictures, video, emails, in some cases word documents. “To remove data from your phone, you need to follow the manufacturer’s instructions and remove your SIM card as well as any inserted memory card in your phone. “(p.43) There is a complete process for removing any information.

The development of digital technology has opened the door and created new job opportunities. In return, many print media companies have seen downfalls in profit. Major corporations have tried to transition and adapted to digital technology. The majority has created platforms, corresponding applications, and secondary sources/outlets for the public. The developments in digital technology increased the engagement in news stories. Often news outlets will provide direct links for live updates via social media.

The Internet is the main source of receiving information, and the capability of accessing explicit content in the news is a new concept which is not easily adaptable to without effects.

How many times can I watch people being shot and killed before entering a state of depression????

Unethical behavior and the unjust treatment of minorities is a controversy continuously in the media. Back in 2016, (right around the time I launched YLP) an African-American woman entered into a Kentucky courtroom after being denied feminine hygiene products and pants for three days. According to the Guardian, it was unclear whether the woman was fully dressed at the time of her arrest or remained in the same condition.

This was one of the first cases I really weighed in on social media and gave my two cents graciously. I remember being so disappointed in the different comments/views relating to this story. Unfortunately, I got into so many arguments with the Internet trolls, but I learned my lesson; I’ll keep my opinions and save my energy for this blog, YLP.

Honestly, I could fill my entire blog with different cases of injustice against people who look just like me (I’ll actually go more in-depth about the most current cases in another post).

Social media has morphed into a medium in which uncensored content is uploaded, exposing the injustices of many people, in this case, a woman of African decent The content that is caught and exposed to the public is a form of propaganda; social media is not a credible news source however, MOST people consume so much of it, making it hard to argue that point.

The use of social media ranges from professional to personal use, and the content is timeless. The use of social media has advanced from popularity to commonality. It has become contact information for personal and business professionals. Even some professional business cards feature Twitter or Instagram usernames and links.

We live in an opinionated generation by far. Sometimes it can be bothersome to see the frustration and the aftermath of so many hurt people in society. With all of the technology, video, audio, and footage there are emotional effects and reactions for some people, and there is still the denial of injustice with people; masking or making excuses for the unethical behavior. Social media is also breeding ground for other attacks such as cyber bullying which has also had a huge impact on young people.

People believe that the issue is with social media itself and some people believe racism and injustice will simply disappear if social media shut down today or tomorrow.

Think I’m lying? Refer to: criminal law in North Carolina banning video recording of law enforcement for more info. This idea caters to the idea that the issue is the content and not the activity, acts of violence, excessive force, discrimination, and flat out racism against minorities.

Media. (2016). In S. Bronner (Ed.), Encyclopedia of American studies. MD: Johns Hopkins University Press. Retrieved from


What exactly is this “Mass Media” we’re consuming? Is it toxic or what?

What is Mass Media? Is it contagious? How much media should you consume on a daily basis? Should you care?

I’m glad you asked!

Mass media can be defined as “technology that is intended to reach a mass audience. It is the primary means of communication used to reach the vast majority of the general public.” (Coleman, 2016) Mass media is the source(s) that commonly provide news and information, heavily relied on by the public at large.

Mass media quickly adapted to the use of technological innovations to communicate information and to provide instant access to information, allow commentary, and to provide live news broadcasting. These uses have created convenience but have also negatively affected society. The immediate aspect of receiving information has created an impatient society. The live broadcasting of the news, via video, has taken away censorship which has affected human empathy among viewers.

Common forms of media include print, electronic, and digital. There has been a complete transition from the way news has been communicated and shared in the past and how it is shared now. The most common/traditional type of media is in the form of print; including newspapers, magazines, books. Now there are electronic media via television, and digital media via technological devices such as computers, tablets, and smartphones. Compared to the past, our society does not have to create our imagery or rely heavily on a professional to deliver information; this has negatively affected trust. We are in a society of go-getters for information. I think the older generation is most comfortable with traditional forms of media and probably have a harder time transitioning from print to technology primarily, to access their news. This is a comparison to the younger generation who usually is hard to tear away from their cell phones.

New developments, including the Internet and technological devices, have created competition for print industries. People migrate toward what is modern and technology appeals to today’s society. Newspapers and magazines are most affected by online sources of information. As a result, many media companies are losing money and seeing a decline in sales and production. With everything almost at the click at a mouse or readily available through applications via smartphone use, print materials are slowly phasing out. Some print industries, specifically magazine companies, are incorporating new technology and gone beyond tradition. Most magazines have created social media platforms and launched websites to provide corresponding information found in their print materials. For example, Essence magazine has a website which users can access to follow up on stories, further research, subscribe to future articles, and receive incentives. There are also applications (apps) available for download.

The Internet, smartphones, computers, and instant gratification are some of the biggest advancements in technology. The advancements in technology have allowed people to access information easily, news, and socialize in a variety of forms. The biggest advancement is the Internet by way of smartphones, computers, tablets, applications and other technological devices. The idea of instant messaging and providing information with the click of a button also stemmed from the various advancements in technology. The Internet has been the biggest breakthrough in media as information is made available to everyone most conveniently. Computers and the Internet are presently the common means for accessing media in today’s society. Society has seen advancements in other sources of media compared to their first introduction including televisions radios.

Electronic and digital media is made available to the masses for the masses via technology. Digital technology has been an advancing format. It began as a primary storage system to having the capacity of spreading information to the masses via the Internet.

Some media is negatively influencing society as Unethical Behavior in entertainment remains popular. Common media displays, desensitizing the public, has caused an increased intolerance for unethical behavior. There is history with unethical behavior in entertainment inclusive of video games, movies, and sports. Constant viewing of these acts has the potential of desensitizing individuals, creating a tolerance for similar real-life incidents in media.

Modern video games encourage violence which strengthens the relationship between media influence and unethical behavior. Grand Theft Auto 5 (Brutal Kill) is a modern video game for PlayStation and Xbox consoles. The game advertisement depicts a series of violence. The intensity ranges from robbing stores to stealing cars, and the brutal assault on women. There are graphic sexualized displays of violence toward women including arrest, capture, and excessive force. It was disturbing to see how this game would be played across the nation as entertainment. These images are familiar in today’s media. As people have been accustomed to violent and unethical behavior in entertainment, there is a tolerance for publicly displaying uncensored, violent content via social media. As people have been accustomed to violent and unethical behavior in entertainment, there is a tolerance for publicly displaying uncensored, violent content via social media.

Although the unethical behavior is not new, it is being thrown into the spotlight. As unethical behavior is becoming noticeable different laws and restriction have been set in place to limit the propaganda; preventing social media view. For example, North Carolina’s governor banned police body camera footage from the public view. The idea of restricting the exposure to the public does not fix the controversial issue but suppresses it.

Technology has the potential to exploiting controversy through viral media. Unethical behavior, in a variety of forms, is occurring at a rapid speed throughout the nation. With the help of technology and social media, the public can view many of these occurrences in the news. Viral media is popular and has become a standard resource for news. Technological savvy people are exposed to this media as it is a quick way of spreading information. The advancements in technology, combined with social media, is proving unethical behavior exists and with the click of a button it is shared as entertainment. The nature of this controversy is explicit, uncensored, and on public display through media.

A lot of media coverage involves police related controversies due to claims of violent and excessive force and injustice. Injustice is evident through shared content of the physical encounters with suspects, sometimes leading to the deaths. It has become common to view uncensored, violent and the unethical content and spread it through social media causing controversy.

Although unethical behavior is not new, it is being thrown into the spotlight. As unethical behavior is becoming noticeable different laws and restriction have been set in place to limit the propaganda; preventing social media view. For example, North Carolina’s governor banned police body camera footage from the public view. The idea of limiting the exposure to the public does not fix the controversial issue but suppresses it. The Rodney King murder which occurred in 1991 showed the violent, unethical behavior and excessive force used by law enforcement. This was a time when social media, the Internet, etc. was not familiar or accessible, however, unethical behavior was recorded and released to the public.

The issue isn’t technologies, social media or the ability to share content. It is in the actual unethical acts and the fact that some people find no foul in it. The immediate removal of unethical behavior in entertainment and social media would be a positive effect in the way it is perceived. The issue is not with social media it is with the content created and viewed and an increase in conversation due to the exposure via social media. Eliminating social media, restricting the sharing of unethical behavior (videos), enforcing laws to limit the distribution of police content will not fix the problem. For example, Twitter users can report material that is offensive or should be censored. However, it is based on content laws, privacy act, basically up to Twitter personnel to make the judgment of whether the content should be removed; this is also biased. There are already restrictions set in place, but there are still issues with people exhibiting unethical behavior and finding it in entertainment or used as entertainment. Entertainment has made unethical behavior in ways acceptable.





























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