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I got mascara clumps & my edge controller turned my edges white #chooseYOU

It’s Only Tuesday…

Imagine spending the morning getting ready for work and it’s business as usual: you’re doing your hair, applying some makeup, picking out an outfit (that isn’t that cute but will do because it’s only Tuesday and who are you trying to impress at work anyway), and your mirror is telling you that you’re pretty, chill, and cute.

Minding your own business, you arrive to work and catch a glimpse of yourself, and think maybe you should’ve put more time into your morning routine.

This hating ass work mirror is at it again; reflecting a complete mess.

What you thought, just ain’t it, and now it’s too late.

I’m having one of those mornings.

Honestly shame on me for not giving myself the 100% I deserve. I yell “LOVE YOURSELF!” every chance I get and it’s time to start rising to the occasion.

I don’t know who else needs to hear this but: wake up and get out of bed when the first alarm sounds!

What is it about the comfort of home, the safe space that is a bedroom with a complimenting mirror and the best/worst lighting?

I can’t understand how I missed all of the clumps in my mascara and didn’t see that the edge controller I used turned my edges white.

I’m having an interesting start to my day with this unexpected tragedy; to say the least: I need a do-over.

Let’s switch gears and turn this totally random introduction to a blog post into a quick self-love and self-care piece #youngloudproud style!

How to stay Young Loud & Proud when you don’t feel like it…

It’s all about your mindset.

Confidence comes from this amazing source that is your cerebrum; I’d like to think that confidence works your cerebral cortex and requires all four lobes to go into overdrive which produces that invincible feeling.

In my case, it made me step into my workplace looking crazy but when you’re mindset is balanced with the right amount of feel-good on the inside, you’ll shine either way!

Loving yourself while balancing that inner confidence is key, however, WE need to keep that good ol self-love energy balanced with self-care.

#ChooseYou

How can we appreciate the good in ourselves without accepting and working on the not so pretty?

Choosing YOU restores an inner balance because no matter what variation of YOU you are in that moment, when you are accepting of that, you benefit from the inside out.

“Patience”  (sensitive topic)

I’m working on being patient; I used to be so impatient with everything.

It’s difficult being an immediate results type of girl. If I didn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel within the first five minutes, I’m would change directions.

The other day I read someone’s tweet (I wish I could remember who so I could give credit) but it went something like: people are so focused on the light at the end of the tunnel and don’t even realize there is no tunnel. Reminds me of the matrix theory “there is no spoon.”

Basically we create these theories & ideologies that really don’t mean anything at the end of the day. All that matters is what leaves an impression. Its how you feel about yourself, how you treat yourself and how well you preserve your mental muscle. #ChooseYOU

It’s almost as if our “problems” and “hard times” aren’t as real as we may think.  We make them real because of our strong mental muscle. Without straying too much from the topic: we are capable of making decisions that will literally reshape and change our future all we have to do is CHOOSE! We are given choice…Life is all about choice. Choose to be confident, to love you and every variation that comes with that, invest more time in yourself, preserve your feelings, monitor and police your thoughts, wake up early and get your shit together!

I know everyone is saying this but I’m not on a trendy wave I’m becoming aware of some much and while I’m making some really important changes in my life, I’m seeing the benefits of putting myself FIRST and it’s really lit.

It all started with changing my mindset and redirecting my energy (not every few minutes like the impatient me). But taking time to really see results.

I went to the Essence Carnival and was surround my some LEGENDS! One lesson I took away is that you have to stay yourself, not rush your success and to not get in the way of your own blessings. Take a chance on yourself and gamble each time, don’t be afraid to fail the first time and if you do don’t be so ashamed to ask for help (network!) people have the answers and resources to help you and you’d be surprised how far teamwork can take you (this is a tough one for me because I feel like I’m a jack of all trades and I’m constantly trying to do it all by myself…

I think it’s time to bring my Podcast back!

I want to continue with these important conversations to hopefully give out some inspiration to you all. Stay tuned and stay #youngloudproud

 

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The Future is Young Loud Proud

I launched this Blog site “Young Loud Proud” and “Speak Up: a podcast for invincible girls” to encourage and educate my peers,  break stereotypes, promote diversity & inclusion, promote self-love/care, self-expression, and to celebrate art.

I want to continue with this theme and over the next five years transform Young Loud Proud into a mentoring program that engulfs my current MISSION and will encourage young people to strive for greatness despite their current shortcomings.

I want to expand YLP’s reach by visiting various areas across the world to bridge the gap between various cultures, conduct classes that celebrates individuality through art, and share the mission of  YLP while campaigning “I like me.”

There are young people with deep emotional issues and there are children who may not be able to express themselves; as a result I see a need for this mentoring art program.

The art classes given through this mentoring program will be a huge developmental benefit because it will help strengthen cognitive skills, communication, team building, and this will help children with self-expression.

Poetry

This program will be based on art that promotes the production of: poetry writing.

We’ll explore poetry throughout history and have the opportunity to review a variety of previous works (from Dr. Suess to Langston Hughes).

The educational components will include an overview of famous/infamous poets in history.

The overall goal will be to motivate children to be accepting of each other, promote diversity, and to spread love between cultures.

Cosmetic Making

These classes will teach young people how to create beauty products from scratch (this craft will help with team building, promote camaraderie, and bridge the gap between foreign cultures).

Participants will be given a variety of ingredients to create their beauty products.

They will be mixing ingredients together and (I will melt them and mold them); increasing knowledge on how cosmetics are made is a great skill to obtain.

Podcasting

I want to help young people create Podcasts ultimately teaching the importance of communication.

After learning how to create their own poetry/ short stories participants will be given the opportunity to read and record their stories and poems, explain their meaning, learn how to splice recordings/ add music & sound effects, and ultimately create an “episode” for a Podcast.

I have submitted this propsal to many different agencies for funding and have filled out a ton of grant applications. It can be fustrating to have a vision of this magnitude (without funding) and without a solid/ concrete plan to execute goals… but I am hopeful and positive!

I know I’m making these ideas real every time I talk about them, type them out, and put them on paper.

I shared this idea with everyone, I thought it was time I shared it with you.

I love you Young Loud Proud, I see the prgress, and I see your future (it’s BRIGHT)!

If you are interested in supporting this mission please email: proudloudyoung@gmail.com or support Mystiky Maquillage.

 

Thank you.

 

 

 

 

 

A trip down Graffiti Alley in Toronto Canada

After a very long Megabus ride from Philly (almost 11 hours including two 20 minute layovers) I finally made it to Canada!

Today marks day #1 of my solo adventure and I had a great time exploring downtown Toronto.

You may be asking why the heck I opted for such a long bus trip and the truth is I was just being cheap lol the bus ticket was only $30.

When you purchase Megabus tickets in advance you can travel almost anywhere at a discounted price (compared to flying).

Anyway, ITS COLD! The high today was only 29 degrees and it was pretty windy (not too far off from Philadelphia temperatures right now so I was prepared).

I’m just thankful it wasn’t snowing today and there was barely any evidence of last week’s snowfall so it’s all good.

Although the temperatures are pretty cold I felt nothing but positive vibes from the warm welcome of Toronto today.

I dedicated my morning to exploring on foot and it was pretty simple figuring out my way around downtown.

Although my phone didn’t work a lick and there weren’t any available WiFi networks to connect to, I found the places I had been researching prior, just fine.

The streets were pretty familiar thanks Google maps (especially street view)!

Streets like Augusta & Queen (near Graffiti Alley), Bay Street, University Ave, and some other major landmarks (like Union Station) were so easy to find.

I’m only passing through Toronto and for the short time I had to spend here I needed to visit Graffiti Alley!

I think street art is so beautiful. There is an entire section in Toronto dedicated to this type of art and it’s dubbed “Graffiti Alley.”

Think of the artist and how FREE they are in the moments of creating these pieces.

I enjoyed the art as well as the extremely friendly people I met why exploring.

One thing I’ve learned already from traveling solo is that there really are some kind hearted people out here (the kindness started with my Megabus driver letting me on the bus early to get me out of the cold so shout out to him and the entire South Philly!!!)…

I didn’t get much time to do the traditional touristy things (I managed to get some great pictures of the UN tower though; I couldn’t miss that lol) but nonetheless my day was unforgettable.

Stay tuned for the rest of my solo adventures this week! I’m traveling to London, Portugal, & Paris. Follow me on IG for more @mystik.y & @youngloudproud

More blog posts coming soon!

#SpeakUp: An Invincible Girl’s Podcast

#YLPtalk

 

My new Podcast “Speak Up: the podcast for invincible girls” (an extension of this blog Young Loud Proud) is coming soon (9.30.18).
I hoped you’ve missed me and more than ready to hear my voice. I think I make rambling on about social change sound really good LOL!
I originally created this blog site “Young Loud Proud (YLP)” as a resource tool for inspiration & motivation in the hopes of spreading POSITIVITY while dismembering stereotypes.
My goal(s) for this Podcast is to discuss various social issues that affect us girls and to also discuss solutions/thoughts on how to change the issues.
The idea is to extend this platform, have a series of informal chats with the overall theme of speaking up & becoming/remaining invincible.
Each guest is invited to voice their opinions, attempt to break stereotypes, provide clarity, etc. in their unique style to raise awareness; all in the hopes of encouraging and inspiring young women like myself to speak up and use their voices to do the same.
Invincible girl, please call into my Podcast to Speak Up and be heard!
If you are interested, please contact me with your availability:

 

Official email: proudloudyoung@gmail.com

More details coming VERY soon…….

Put some emojis on my name: why it’s hard to date as a millennial #YLPtalk

First of all, let me say social media is very entertaining but the consumption of social media and the desperate need for attention from SOME people ruins relationships.

Guy: “Why are you single?”

Me: (shorthand version) “idk.”

The real reason is that it’s hard for me to trust.

The last guy I was really interested in hand Twitter fingers, he always double taps Instagram pictures of big booty girls, and I automatically caught an attitude any time I saw him put heart eye emojis under any girls pictures.

To some people that may not be a big deal but to me it was enough to cut him off.

Maybe one day I’ll be honest and admit I’m a bit insecure.

I’ve been single for a while, and the common denominator is myself.

Yes, I’m aware but just let me say dating as a millennial is just too stressful.

I’ve been conditioned in many ways; the things that really weren’t important, say ten years ago, are very important now. Who are you texting? Why don’t you have any emojis next to my contact in your phone?? You may be thinking that this is very immature of me, but very typical and realistic statements that can lead to devastating arguments/breakups.

Now that I’ve come to terms with the fact that I have work to do on myself (hence launching the #ILIKEME campaign for self awareness/self love) I am taking a step back, not making dating a priority, and I am committed to learning more about myself so I can learn how to be in a relationship with someone else.

I’m learning how to successfully date as a millennial.

I am deciding not to get mad, defensive or keep blaming others but to find out why I react to certain things the way I do.

I don’t know exactly what I want in a relationship I just know I don’t want anything that I’ve had already.

What do you think? Pick a topic below & email me! proudloudyoung@gmail.com

Insecurities
What are we? friends or nah
sex
money
friends
truth
Put some emojis on my name

Just in time for Mother’s Day: “Something I need to say” Red Table Talk Exclusive (Willow Smith )

“Something I need to say”

 

The idea of “Red Table Talk” is so important, especially in a time when we don’t get to see genuine, unscripted, emotion represented (positively) in TV/media by women of color.

I can count on one hand how many shows give us (women of color) a chance to see us (women of color) having mature conversations, or solely dedicated to discussing critical social issues, dealing with emotions/feelings, and finding a solution to help and uplift other women.

People just aren’t empathetic, sympathetic or willing to be vulnerable or show their true colors.

It seems like there’s so much hate in our communities and that is due to many circumstances. I think one is the lack of understanding of who we are and what we can be if we had the love for one another; communicating and taking the time to understand ourselves and love one another.

I look forward to more talks on self-care, love, and life as a journey.
Wheres the love?

Thank you for this show JADA!!

I appreciate that I will be able to see genuine love between women of color, women that look like me.

I always had a good relationship with my mom, but since I lost my grandmother, I always wonder what my life would be if my grandmother still around so this episode touched home for me.

I understand Willow’s emotion in expressing her love and appreciation for her mom.

Mom’s love, support, and overall presence in a girl’s life is so important, and I realize not everyone gets that love from mom…it’s a beautiful thing and something that can be so overwhelming.

With mother’s day around the corner, it got me thinking about mom’s. This show is magic and much needed!

I just love Willow Smith #YoungLoudProud

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