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How NOT to fangirl (when you really want to) Part II. #YLPtalk

Fan·girl: (of a female fan) behaving in an obsessive or overexcited way.

Gather around Young Loud Proud, this is Part II of How NOT to fangirl (when you really want to). #YLPtalk

This past year I’ve been in a few unbelievable situations where I could’ve fangirl-ed the hell out of a couple of my favorite celebrities and could’ve made some memorable events, but I chose to stay quiet and keep to myself with the overall goal of not acting like a complete fan (even though my insides were exploding). It’s a self-control thing, I’ll tell you all about it, here goes nothing!

How to act like you don’t care that: Mary J Blige, Judy Jamison, Lena Waithe, Naomi Campbell, Naturi Naughton, Fantasia, Beverly Johnson, Queen Latifah, Ciara, Janet Jackson & Phylicia Rashad are all sitting within arms reach when all you want to do is run up to them, give out hugs, pull out your camera, and snap selfies:

I attended the filming of the was the Black Girls Rock 2018 awards show and the only question on my mind was: Do I carpe diem or nah?

BET just aired the 2018 awards show “Black Girls Rock” (on 9/9/18) an annual celebration of Black women while recognizing some of the most prominent pioneers in culture.

I had a brief close-up camera appearance so the excitement of seeing myself on TV a few weeks after the filming, basically prompted this “Part II” (of a new ongoing series on Young Loud Proud about keeping your cool and resisting the urge to fangirl celebrities).

A few weeks ago, my best friend sent me a link to attend a taping of this awards show and since I’ve always dreamed of going, this “win a chance to attend” link was right on the money (just not my money—that was a joke). I figured “sure” anything free is for me; it didn’t matter that it was almost 3 hours away in New Jersey.

So I signed right on up and the following week I was sent a surprise text asking me to confirm my attendance to the “2017 Soul Train Awards.” I rolled my eyes so hard at the confirmation, I was already reluctant to travel for this event, and part of me felt like this was the confirmation of some scam, after all, the title, year, and overall details of the show were so off.

Any who, it was all good because once I arrived, I saw a bunch of elegantly dressed people and signs indicating that I was indeed at the right show. It was a huge relief to see event staff eagerly smiling with their “Black Girls Rock event staff” tee shirts on.

So, then I exhaled. I was signed up for the correct show, traveled to the right location, made it on time, I was super cute in my semi-formal outfit, the last thing to ease my mind was the understanding of my role…while I thought I won exclusive seats what I really signed up for was an opportunity to be a seat filler.

For those of you who don’t really know who or what “seat fillers” are for award shows (if you’re reading this puzzled don’t worry I was too) the name is pretty self-explanatory. I was signing up to fill seats as necessary for the duration of the Black Girls Rock ceremony. I was expected to be shifted around, to make room, and fill in seats as necessary for the models, actors, actresses, and VIPs (et al.).

Once I ingested the duties of a seat filler after being prepped by the event staff, my best friend and I was ushered into a waiting area/auditorium where we waited over 2 hours in the hopes of being needed.

In the agreement, it clearly stated that not everyone would be chosen, so I braced myself for rejection. I don’t know why sometimes I count myself out (I need to stop doing that!!! this is a #YLPtalk for another day).

While waiting in an entirely separate and crowded auditorium, away from the actual event, I have to admit; I was anxious, hungry and ready to leave, but, I AM SO GLAD I STAYED!

I was sitting next to some complainers who figured the long wait was because they ran out of room, or they weren’t going to need us, or the “powers that be” didn’t like our outfits but I’m so glad I’ve mastered the art of tuning people out because they were dead wrong.

Not only did we get seated, but the ushers ended up sitting my best friend and I (together) in the second row! Yes, we were up close and personal, just a few feet from the amazing “Black Girls Rock” stage and we didn’t get shuffled or asked to move NOT ONCE!

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(This was the only picture I was brave enough to snap as we were leaving out!)

Overall, this was the best experience ever; I ended up sitting right behind Naturi Naughton (commonly known as “Tasha” from 50 cent’s show “Power”), and while trying not to fangirl, I began to notice more of THE GREATS and it was completely unbelievable.

I saw the likes of Mary J Blige, Lena Waithe, Naomi Campbell, Fantasia, Beverly Johnson & Phylicia Rashad … it was all so inspirational just to be surrounded by them and to feel their positive energy. In the words of Mary J “Black Girls just Rock, we just do…” I felt the magic all through the room.

My opinion: to fangirl at an elegant awards show entirely uncalled for and is probably the quickest way to get removed. One thing I will confess: I did bring a copy of “An Ode to the “Good Girl” and leave it under Judy Jamison’s chair but whether she got it or security removed it is neither here nor there…that was the extent of me fangirl-ing…

I was so honored to be there, and I respected that this was such a sacred space full of #BlackGirlMagic. I didn’t see a bunch of bodyguards everywhere, you know? Everyone was basically enjoying each other in harmony, and I thought to myself “yeah this is exactly where I should be.”

I declared to myself that next year I’d be up on that stage and not just in the audience and you better believe it! It was like the best motivational rally, therapy session, church service, and most amazing free concert I’ve ever been to all wrapped up into one event.

You have to realize people are in celeb’s faces all day snapping photos, asking for selfies, recording, and it’s entirely annoying for them. At least that’s what I think. Although I had already signed an agreement not to take out my cell phone before going inside, I was so tempted! Especially when my favorite auntie Phylicia Rashad came on the stage!

They showed me twice so I’m just being joe 😭😭 like look ma I’m on TV!

Some of my favorite moments:

Mary J Blige’s acceptance speech (click here on this link to see my cameo LOL)
Fantasia’s tribute to Aretha Franklin
H.E.R’s performance
Lena Waithe’s acceptance speech

Honestly I signed up through the link for the “2017 Soul Train Awards” with my best friend, ended up waiting for almost 3 hours, and then come to find out it was only to be a seat filler. I was so disappointed but I’m glad I held on because it turned out to be one of the best experiences ever.

I never expected to be sitting up front at alllllll…

The Black Girls Rock 2018 awards show was epic; I’m so thankful to have been a part of that celebration on our culture. I was moved by Trana Burke’s (the founder of the #MeToo movement) speech. I was so excited to celebrate, alongside so many pioneers in our culture that I truly admire, ones that I grew up (past generational celebrities) with and am growing up with (current generation). I realize the magic that took place is unique and want to acknowledge that it isn’t often that we (black women) are celebrated or glorified in the media.

We have to mostly fight for our kudos and share the weight of having to overcompensate for ourselves sometimes, so let me just say I don’t know of a better example/way to do that than exclaiming “Black Girl, YOU ROCK!”

Thank you BET for displaying positive images of black women, shouting out those that are otherwise dimmed, or volume turned down by the media, thank you for shouting us out!!!

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Don’t let me discourage you Young Loud Proud people, if you fangirl, do it with pride, go hard or not at all…this is only a mere suggestion of how to get re-invited to the events LOL!

I just wanted to share some of my thoughts and experiences with you because you never know sometimes… I’ve been in certain situations with people whom I really admire, and for the sake of not being a complete fool, I suppress the “shock and awe” methodologies I try and live by… but…what do you guys think? Will being bold always work for your benefit? Sometimes you can put yourself out there, not act shy and grab what you want and it totally works but you have to be careful, or you’ll look thirsty.

Have you had a run in with a celeb or hung out with a crush/someone you admire? Do you disagree with this theory? Please let me know!!! Email me! proudloudyoung@gmail.com

If you’re interested in more personal reflections/rants/stories like these check out the book of poems I recently published: “An Ode to the ‘Good Girl’” available in paperback or kindle (e-book)

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How NOT to fangirl Trey Songz (when you really want to) #YLPtalk

Fan·girl: (of a female fan) behaving in an obsessive or overexcited way.

Gather around Young Loud Proud kids, this is a rant of a story, explaining the importance of NOT “fangirl-ing” (when you really want to). #YLPtalk

This past year I’ve met some of my favorite people, in the most unbelievable situations, and although I would’ve loved to fangirl the hell out of a couple of those celebrities (which would’ve made some awesome, unforgettable memories) I chose to keep my composure and not act like a complete fan (even though my insides were exploding and begging for the opposite). It’s a self-control thing, I’ll tell you all about it, here goes nothing!

  1. How to act like you really don’t care about Trey Songz when he is standing right next to you:

After the after party its the after-afterparty! I was in ATL last April for the TREMAINE the tour festivities, and I went to (really snuck into) an after-after party with Trey Songz (and Jeezy (for some reason I always forget he was there LOL, but I love him too)) anyway, I was literally clubbing with Trey! I was in a small club, and I was so close to him that I was able to pass him a blunt and have him deny it. I was thinking in my head the whole time “do I act like a fool and get thrown out of here” with follow up thoughts like “should I really take out my cell phone and snap a secret selfie” (although no one else was), and most importantly I considered the consequences of jumping on the man of my dreams like I always fantasized I would.

Do I carpe diem or nah?

One thing you have to realize is that at the end of the day celebrities are people. Not Gods, not bulletproof, yes they are magical (but so are you). Anyway, I came to the conclusion that just wasn’t the time fangirl. I was in a small setting and I chose to just blend in with his close friends/family instead being THAT girl which would’ve been entirely uncalled for. At least that’s what I thought. Celebs are constantly having people snap photos, they’re asked for selfies, recordings, etc and whether they feel obligated to engage or not, I can’t even begin to imagine how annoying it can be at times. Honestly, at 4 am, how many of you really think Tremaine wanted to see another cell phone? (That’s all I was thinking). This man is tired and hungry and the last thing he wants is to see the flash of my camera…

ATL was epic; just an hour before (at the Tremaine the tour show) I witnessed women literally passing out from all of the excitement from the legend that is Trey Songz. Then later that night I weaseled my way into the after AFTER party and maintained my composure and kept my dignity although my Afro almost cost my best friend and I admission. S/O to the guy that was like “we need some more females in this club!” hahahahahahaaaa.. anyway the second moral to this story is that deep down I kinda wish I acted a fool and took that moment to twerk on Trey or something at least but ah FUCK IT how many people can honestly say they saw their celeb crush u close and personal???

I chose to act like I didn’t care and that awarded me another hour in that club, just enough time to meet Mu and make friends with the guy rolling up the blunts. Trey’s little brother Forrest is so freaking cute too!!! Oh, I stayed long enough that my best friend and I missed our flight (totally worth it and I would do it again) and in a rush to the airport, I forgot that I packed a bud in my bag (found that out after I unpacked my clothes after arriving back to Philly).

 2. How to act like you really don’t care that Beyonce’s dancers are hanging out with you, eating Pagano’s cheese steaks, and playing Scattergories (when all you want to do is ask a million questions):

OK so the whole reason for this rant of a story and this incredible flashback from ATL is because last night I got the chance to hang out with this awesome guy I went to high school with. Last night was his last night in town (PHILLY) then back off to Miami. I missed Tindy. He was always a sweet, funny guy. I asked him if he would mind me throwing an impromptu game night in this bando (the uptown bando) to celebrate his last night and he said it was cool (what he didn’t know is that I’m a literal type of girl). When I say some I want to throw a game night; I live up to the true meaning of it.

All I heard was “Maya someone is double parked outside!” Showtime! So, games in tow, I headed toward Tindy’s car with my sack of games. He jumped out of his car and immediately burst my bubble “nobody wants to play all of these games, what are you doing??” I was immediately embarrassed, I felt like the child while carrying Stratego, Monopoly, Othello, Family Feud, Scattergories, Clue FX, Gestures, and one more box I can’t remember at the moment. If you let Tindy tell it, I was Santa Clause (Alexa play 2chainz’s verse on Big Bank). So the nervous sweats came (mind you I already had next to nothing on, and my edges were already halfway (less than halfway) fleeky, so the sweat just made everything WORSE!) So I ran back in the house, leaving my keys in the door all nervous to head off to the bando. I came back out with Scattergories, got in his car, took out my cellphone, and I called my friends to come to meet up with his friends so we can all be friends.

What I didn’t know was how poppin Tindy and his friends really were… one of the guys that danced with Beyonce at Coachella came through the door, and I lost it (inside). I was like oh my God. A talent in my presence yet again and I cant even act the way I want. I had a million questions for this man. Like you worked with Bey? YOU DANCED WITH BEYONCE like what the??? He had the nerve to have on his exclusive Bey fraternity/sorority sweater on too. I would have snagged it if I could’ve (I already tried it with his exclusive Torture lighter/ you know testing the waters, but that didn’t go so well…) he wasn’t too amused but what he doesn’t know is that I was plotting on so much more!

I play too much as you guys can probably guess and when I’m nervous, I sweat a lot. I fangirl so hard inside it seeps though my pores but at the end of the day when you treat people who are associated with fame with respect. I think that if you treat celebrities as you would an ordinary friend, I think they can appreciate it (but damn….sometimes I wonder how things would be if I really lived in the moment embarrassed myself)? What if I twerked on Trey or told Q I wanted to leave and go back to LA with him. Maybe right now I would be off somewhere living my best life!

Sometimes I wish I was THAT girl, but even in a drunken state I still think logically. I have a million different scenarios running through my head at any given time, and I love it.

Don’t let me discourage you Young Loud Proud people I just wanted to share some of my thoughts and experiences with you because you never know sometimes… I’ve been in certain situations with people whom I really admire, and for the sake of not being a complete fool, I suppress the “shock and awe” methodologies I try and live by… What do you guys think? Will being bold always work for your benefit? Sometimes you can put yourself out there, not act shy and grab what you want and it totally works but you have to be careful, or you’ll look thirsty.

Have you had a run in with a celeb or hung out with a crush/someone you admire? Do you disagree with this theory? Please let me know!!! Email me! proudloudyoung@gmail.com

If you’re interested in more personal reflections/rants/stories like these check out the book of poems I recently published: “An Ode to the ‘Good Girl’” available in paperback or kindle (e-book)

An Ode to the “Good Girl” (the story behind the cover art) #AnOdetoGG

I’ve never published a book before but it has always been a huge goal of mine to do so independently.

I fought with myself over every detail until I got tired and gave into creativity; not realizing that the perfect version of my book was slowly being lost in trying to obtain perfection.

For starters, the name originally was “Seven days til life” then changed to “Blue Cherry”. I came up with the title “Good Girl” right around the time I created “Young Loud Proud” as I became devoted to spreading positivity, focusing on Black excellence and breaking stereotypes. I thought about a label I’ve been associated with and how I’ve been constantly proving otherwise. It took almost two years to decide on the final structure; my heart (and the right side of my brain) chose the official name: “An Ode to the Good Girl.”

I came to the realization that in order to achieve perfection I needed to stay true to myself and express my art exactly as I wanted to.

Before I officially came up with the title, the structure of my book was just all over the place. Did I want to tell a specific story? Did I want to mix fiction with non-fiction? Do I incorporate my own stories? Maybe. Nah…my life isn’t that exciting. Or is it?

I already think of myself as a rhyming individual so my story was already very poetic. The first three drafts of this book were not (entirely) in poetry form but it flowed very nicely that with a lot of mind power and creativity I was able to create something that reminds me of some of the books I grew up on.

Imagine Shel Silverstein and Maya Angelou’s love child that was raised by Dr. Suess and Solange who’s god mommy is Sister Soulja. You may think “Maya is the best future ghostwriter of our generation” or “what in the knock off Shakespearian Tupac do we have here??”

That was absolutely a joke but you might get that feeling when you read through this Ode. I organized a compilation of short stories I’ve written, diary entries, poems, raps, songs, old journals, college notes, all from the past 6 years. I created an Ode to the “good girl” I thought I was, who Society deems me to be; to the girl who let her daddy down.

A lot of this comes from a sad place I was involved with a few people that I put so much hope into that I almost lost myself, but in my sadness, I found comfort in writing. I found myself by challenging myself and facing my fears.

I found a way to shed negativity and out of it came a blessing. I want to encourage the next girl to do the same.

I made a super vision board. I clipped up at least 5 magazines printed out my favorite quotes and created collage on a board that reflected myself (my wants, needs, aspirations, and goals).

The cover reflects the many sides of me rather it be revolutionary or ratchet it’s a mash-up of me and I love it so what better image to use for my cover art?

I asked about three different people to draw a cover for me (previously). I sent them each a poem and offered money if they could put a visual representation to my words.

That was silly because I realized that I am the only one who can do that and I already did (through my artwork).

As I finished up the book, having picked the official title, I was confident on choosing my board as the official cover art. Not only is it unique, it is a clear representation of the words in this book of poems. It forces the reader to really take the time to think about what they’re reading and interpret the meaning on their own.

An excerpt from “An Ode to the ‘Good Girl’” available in paperback or kindle (e-book)

We write poetry too. #youngloudproud

Happy Trey Day!!!! Tremaine the Album @treysongz #TREMAINE Available Everywhere 3/24/17

Watch Trey’s most recent interview on Big Boy’s neighborhood:

 

TREMAINE (the album)

What better way to grab the attention of your fan base by toying with the idea of a reality show to find love? HA! The concept behind announcing the album, dropping the new single & visual, and the upcoming tour was completely genius.

Trey had us all fooled once rumors of a new reality show (Tremaine the Playboy) spread through social media.

You heard a sigh of relief once Trey’s master plan unfolded and we realized he was just building up the excitement in anticipation of announcing his upcoming album & tour.

Now that Trey has our attention here are some things to look forward to in the next few months & a recap of his announcements:

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TREMAINE (the album) is set to drop March 24, 2017 with the tour kicking off in Detroit Michigan May 3, 2017.

Pre-order TREMAINE the album and gain access to purchase pre-sale tickets for  TREMAINE the tour (expected to kick off in Detroit Michigan 5/3/17) !!!!!!

This offer is only valid if you pre-order TREMAINE from Trey’s website.

NOBODY ELSE BUT YOU

The first single from the anticipated album TREMAINE is titled “Nobody Else but You.”

Watch Mr. Break Yo Heart & the official video to Nobody Else But You here:

“‘episode description: Trey Songz decides to look for true love with the launch of the dating series, “Tremaine The Playboy.” In the first episode entitled “Nobody Else But You,” he meets 20 ladies competing for his affection over the course of thirty days.
Are they just thirsty for fame, or are they for real? Will Trey find the one? Mumma Songz and Kane Songz weigh in.'”
From www.tremainetheplayboy.com

Stream & purchase Trey’s first single on TREMAINE: Nobody else but you on iTunes

TREMAINE will be available everywhere March 24, 2017

New Videos!!!!!

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She Lovin’ It

Song Goes Off

 

 

Who is #MikexAngel? (Updated!!)

Some of the best musical talents come from Virginia.

Just like Trey Songz & Chris Brown, Mike Angel is littttt!!!

Mike Angel’s name explains it all just listen to the vocals.

Virginia’s very own is the hot new voice in the spotlight:

Paired with my fave (TREY) the two have created something special just in the nick of time (Anticipation III).

I think we all were going crazy with President Obama’s farewell speech and needed a quick distraction from focusing so much on the Presidential family leaving us.

Mike Angel and Trey are giving us a chance to divert our attention to some feel good music and be uplifted.

Anticipation III definitely gives me a great appreciate for both artists’ vocals, harmonies, and lyrics; it’s a fresh introduction to Mike Angel.

Here’s Mike Angel’s bonus track from Anticipation 3

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Some of Mike’s previous music:

Throwback: No love in my city (2014) remix to Drakes “Draft Day

Most recent (One of my favorites) Come and see me remix (2017)

You can hear more of Mike Angel on Trey’s mixtape To whom it may concern

He’s featured on songs inclusive of: Never Enough, Everybody Say & Walls

When Mike gets on Instagram live it’s absolutely my favorite. He’s pretty interactive with his fans which is cool.

He’s always working hard in the studio, and we get a chance to see how the process of creating art really works.

You can follow him on Twitter & catch him live on Instagram

I’m so excited for his future projects.

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Stay tuned yall.

(Update) “N2S”

Nothing 2 Something is on the way. Take a peek at the track list below:

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More from Mike Angel:

Apple Music-itunes

New music alert!! Anticipation III @treysongz X @MIKEANGEL

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1. A3

2. Mind Fuckin

3. I Got The Time

4. Gonna Be

5. Find My Love

6. Make It All

7. Vibrator

8. ’93 Unleaded

9. If It Ain’t Love

10. Sho Nuff

11. Bonus-Anxious

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